blindhope Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Long story short... Date love of my life for 7 years, talking marriage I'm 30 she's 26...then boom she moves out. I was destroyed. Then I found e-mails. She dumped me for another man.Ney a teenager. Yes she was young when we started dating. But wait not just any teenager. He had just been released from and juvenille detention center for drug rehab. Not that bad though. But she was his Therapist there jsut days before. He gets out. She moves out..... There sleeping together, and going by bf/gf. Secret relationship though. So much wonderful puppy love. Im an ass for looking, she's and ass for not changing e-mail password. I hate that I looked. But I did. Now what the HELL do I do...............
Author blindhope Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 But how the hell am I supposed to ever heal from this. Its the most messed up situation. It's like teachers sleeping with students. He's in HS.
NapoleonNotSheep Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I don't know but if I would be 7 years in a relationship and talk about marriage and kids and she would do this to me. Man I would rage so much that I would go there and beat the **** out of this little b**** and then slap ex and spit in her face. I am sorry but this s*** just pissed me off really. Because nothing you can do will hurt her except to beat her and this little b**** to teach him a lesson since they didn't do s*** in that facility. 1
Author blindhope Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 (edited) Or I could forward it to her boss. Bye Bye Job, license to practice, and depending upon age possibly more. 7yrs of my life....7 years of her education My future, happiness? Gone in a second.....hers too embarressment.... her too pain and suffering....her too If thats not Karma, what is?? Edited March 23, 2013 by blindhope more
Chi townD Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Actually, you need to report it. It's illegal depending on his age. And its a professional liability.
Damaged23 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Or I could forward it to her boss. Bye Bye Job, license to practice, and depending upon age possibly more. SO 7 years worth of school down the drain. H Don't do that! You are better than that. Sadly, she chose him over you, she's not obligated to be with you. One day she'll realize her mistake, and when she does, you will be happily healed!!
Author blindhope Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 But is my hate clouding my vision and I need to walk away. Or does she need to be reported and get help. Shes been a counslor for 4 months before she starts sleeping with a teenage client??
RiceaRoni Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 But is my hate clouding my vision and I need to walk away. Or does she need to be reported and get help. Shes been a counslor for 4 months before she starts sleeping with a teenage client?? Um that's illegal, and needs to be reported ASAP 1
RiceaRoni Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I would first tell her though...that what she is doing is extremely unprofessional, and illegal. If she doesn't leave the boy or realize what she's doing is wrong; if then proceed to report it. 2
NewPerspective93 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Sorry you're going through this, but it's actions like these that show what your "significant" other can do, and might repeat in the future. I feel you on this one, especially after devoting 7 years of your life to this woman. Remember, what comes around comes around. Best of luck. ^Who am I kidding, you'll be stronger in the end. Hoping the best for you.
Author blindhope Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 I'm really trying to not make a quick judgement and asking for as much advice as I can get first. I honeslty have no idea what to do. I'm heartbroken, sad and humiliated. I got nothing. I just wish it never happened. I wish she'd just get caught on her own. I wish I never met her.
ChrisC81 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I am going through something similar. My long term boyfriend left out of the blue and I found out he started screwing a high school senior. Hes 31! I also had access to his emails and was checking them daily, until he did eventually change his passwords. I haven't spoken to him in almost 6 weeks. Anyway, I know your pain. I am still healing my pain from all the shock and devastation I have been dealt. In my case, the girl was 18 so I did tell her parents and they forbid her to see him, however legally I think it was allowed. If he is underage, then you should report it. I disagree with the poster who said to let her know first. You don't owe her a thing. Let her deal with being blindsided. She had no problem blindsiding you. She deserves no respect. In the end, you see her true colors. Borderline pedophile? She gross and clearly mentally unstable. 1
NapoleonNotSheep Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Can you tell me what GIGS is? And also I would report her let her suffer the pain because she gave you the greatest pain you can suffer in your life. You won't be bad person if you report her. "You are better person than that" well that is what you think. There is no reason why would you be better person if you don't report her? I would report her let her suffer a little and if it is not enough then beat the s*** out of them both and sleep well at night.
Love4Pain Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 GIGS is, the grass is greener syndrome. Basically saying that people feel like they need to leave their current relationship because they think the person they are leaving you for is better. Now...you read through her emails which is bad, but....that is so unprofessional....I'm torn between telling the kids parents or just telling her job (provided that she doesn't delete all those emails before hand) If she only knew him for three days and he's a teenager, I'm sure they will have a long and great relationship *sarcasm* Don't feel too bad even though it feels horrible, my ex who is 25 left me for a 17 year old because she was easier access. Aside from the job aspect, let her be, she wanted to give up what she had for a kid who mostly likely wont have a job, money, or the ability to have a real relationship.
Damaged23 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I think you should move on and let her be. Reporting her would show bitterness. Be the bigger person and walk away..
Thunderchild Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I think you should move on and let her be. Reporting her would show bitterness. Be the bigger person and walk away.. Which would, potentially, make him an accessory to a felony in a sex crime??
NapoleonNotSheep Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Don't just walk away. Report her. She has caused you the pain that is greater than anything else. You can't always forgive and let it be. Sometimes you have to be harsh.
fixing Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Or I could forward it to her boss. Bye Bye Job, license to practice, and depending upon age possibly more. 7yrs of my life....7 years of her education My future, happiness? Gone in a second.....hers too embarressment.... her too pain and suffering....her too If thats not Karma, what is?? M8, I think this 100%. Sorry, but sometimes, karma must be made by yourself. What she did to you was horrendous. But also, it is breaching her work ethics and rules. Do it, and move on.
TigerCub Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I'm sorry all this happened to you I think you should report her. She's using her position to gain trust and get with a teenager - that's disgusting!! It should be reported and she shouldn't be a therapist. Someone suggested that you go out and beat the crap out of the teen - that's wrong - we don't even know if his hussy of a therapist told him she has a boyfriend (you). Report her - do that public service. Go NC with her after And be very very glad that you didn't end up marrying her BEFORE you found all this **** out because then you'd be forced to support such a disgusting bitch (once you lead to her losing her job ) I know you are experiencing a lot of emotions but don't be hard on your self- you have no need to feel ashamed, you did NOTHING wrong. Stay strong. 2
Author blindhope Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 I would never beat anyone up. Just because she didn't want to be with me and feel in love with my exact opposite(really a textbook GIGS case) doesn't mean I have a right to hurt anyone. She did handle the break/breakup complety wrong given she knows better being a therapist. Thr truth is hard but its the best way. She strung me along and tore my heart to pieces. Humiliated me, and now distanced me from some of our mutual friends who have no idea what happened. I don't want to blow the whistle for the wrong reasons. Actually since finding out I have been in a better place. My heartache is almost gone. Gnot in my stomach is much smaller, as I'm torn with how to handle this. I'm not even that angry seeing the "love of my life" so happy with someone else. I actually love to see her happy as hard as it is. I just wish I had someone to fall back on. My biggest concern though is her family has done sooooo much for me over the years and contunies too. I don't want to hurt them. She deserves nothing from me, but do they? After sleeping it off I'm less enraged but still confused....
Chi townD Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 So, leave an anonymous call with her boss or the HR rep of the practice. The fact the a stranger is dropping names of a patient and therapist when someone shouldnt know names will definitely raise some questions and worth looking into. Or dropma message to the kids folks.
Author blindhope Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 She'll knwo its me. And after running it through my head this can run it's course and not end well. And if she has a happily every after with this kid, who is now immature, misguided , and for lack of a better word a thug. Who am I to say she doesn't deserve that. I am better off today than yestarday. I know I'm through with her. No matter what I keep coming back to I need watch out for myself. And get into a good place with a healthy relationship. Sure it sucks being dumped and in a mess like this. But when I started this thread I thought it was unique and worse than most. But looking at everyones stories, that's why we're all here.
destroyed4sho Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 GIGS is, the grass is greener syndrome. Basically saying that people feel like they need to leave their current relationship because they think the person they are leaving you . Not really, GIGs is when a young inexperienced person leaves you to 'sow their wild oats.'
destroyed4sho Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I wouldnt report her.....they are both young and immature. the guy is a thug as you put it and was in juvi...youll probably get backlash. erghhh who needs that? let trash be with trash...eventually someone will find out in her job and report her themselves. Move on from this.
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