jennifer4 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 after reading a few posts on here about it. I was on eharmony for about 8 days and cancelled my account,it was such a waste of time. I never thought I'd join another online dating site, but Sunday I did. POF is free so I figured why not. Well by Tuesday I started talking to a man, we clicked instantly. Had a 30 min or so conversation on my way to work, it was like calling an old friend. Later that night we met for a late dinner, it was the best first date I've had! We have amazing chemistry and the conversation is effortless. Lots in common and genuine interest in one another. That date lasted about 4 hours I know it's fast, but it feels right. I'm being optimistic and enjoying each moment. Last night I went to his place, he made dinner. We ate by candlelight, he's a sweet man. Just wanted to tell my "story". I thought online dating was a complete joke, until now. It's only been a few days but it's just the first of many to come. 3
KatZee Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Oh God I truly hope you're joking. POF? Really? That's the bottom of the barrel when it comes to online dating. Try OKCupid, that's free but a step above POF. Match.com is even better. POF is NOTORIOUS for players, liars, booty calls, husbands cheating on wives, boyfriends cheating on girlfriends, and so on and so forth. I truly hope you keep your eyes open here. I've never heard anyone say, "I met the love of my life on POF." 3
TheBladeRunner Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 That is great you had some good results! I have tried numerous sites and not that I didn't get any dates, but the connections I was making just were not working out. I am curious, what didn't you like about E-Harmony? I was actually considering trying it. 1
Author jennifer4 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 well the problem with eharmony is that they match you with people, you can't choose for yourself. And the matches were usually about 10 yrs older than the max I chose. They also match you with people outside of the distance you choose. It was a complete waste of money. Best of luck to you. 1
Author jennifer4 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 katzee, well no matter what people think of the site, you can't generalize. There are "bad" guys on all sites. Just posted my story, I'm excited and hopeful. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 katzee, well no matter what people think of the site, you can't generalize. There are "bad" guys on all sites. Just posted my story, I'm excited and hopeful. You've got to realize that you hardly know this man...and your story starts like many, it may be a first for you, but it definitely doesn't indicate by any means that this has any real potential. Stick around here, and you'll see. You can trust that most people know what the butterfly stage feels like
Author jennifer4 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 I'm not naive, and I understand it's early. Very early. Taking it for what it is and that's it. Time will tell. After seeing how eharmony is I was just glad to meet a decent man.
KatZee Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 katzee, well no matter what people think of the site, you can't generalize. There are "bad" guys on all sites. Just posted my story, I'm excited and hopeful. Sure there are bad guys on all sites, but POF is where all the "bads" congregate. That's just how it is. Anyone who knows anything about OLD sites knows this. Just be careful. Guys who really want to settle and find a great woman, do NOT browse POF.
El Brujo Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Guys who really want to settle and find a great woman, do NOT browse POF. Of course not. They go to Meetup!
KatZee Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Of course not. They go to Meetup! Meetup is actually a great site. I've never used it for dating but I do it for specific interests and to meet girlfriends. It's been fantastic! I've heard from some people that the dating meetup's are creepy though lol.
Michelle83 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Oh God I truly hope you're joking. POF? Really? That's the bottom of the barrel when it comes to online dating. Try OKCupid, that's free but a step above POF. Match.com is even better. POF is NOTORIOUS for players, liars, booty calls, husbands cheating on wives, boyfriends cheating on girlfriends, and so on and so forth. I truly hope you keep your eyes open here. I've never heard anyone say, "I met the love of my life on POF." That's exactly what I was thinking. I tried Eharmony for a while and found it to be not too bad at all - actually I was pretty surprised with how good the quality was. Everything I heard about POF was just bad news all around. I've thought about trying Meetup, not so much to date per say but also meet new people. I went to one and found it was a lot of much older women and not many I'd click with. I find it's hard to get past the fear with some of the larger ones that you don't know anyone going in.
outsidethebox Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I've never heard anyone say, "I met the love of my life on POF." She just said it. 1
neveragain34 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Good luck! Be careful not to rush into this one guy though or be too available no matter how much chemistry you think you have now. I'm a little weary of these types of instant connections/whirlwind romances/too-good-to-be-true situations after learning from personal experience. They usually turn out to be players and/or lose interest as quickly as they gained it.
El Brujo Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Meetup is actually a great site. I've never used it for dating but I do it for specific interests and to meet girlfriends. It's been fantastic! I've heard from some people that the dating meetup's are creepy though lol. Well... I wouldn't call them "creepy", but I've been to a few Meetup groups for singles which lived by how many stars people give them, and most of those groups are cookie-cutter bar groups... the women were totally boring, and just wanted to drink. OTOH I've been to a few which were non-alcohol (e.g., geeks and potlucks), and they were the best ones of all. The women at those meetups definitely didn't look like supermodels (more like farm girls!), but they were anything but boring or ditzy. I'd much rather date one of them than one of the women from a bar meetup. 1
StanMusial Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 after reading a few posts on here about it. I was on eharmony for about 8 days and cancelled my account,it was such a waste of time. I never thought I'd join another online dating site, but Sunday I did. POF is free so I figured why not. Well by Tuesday I started talking to a man, we clicked instantly. Had a 30 min or so conversation on my way to work, it was like calling an old friend. Later that night we met for a late dinner, it was the best first date I've had! We have amazing chemistry and the conversation is effortless. Lots in common and genuine interest in one another. That date lasted about 4 hours I know it's fast, but it feels right. I'm being optimistic and enjoying each moment. Last night I went to his place, he made dinner. We ate by candlelight, he's a sweet man. Just wanted to tell my "story". I thought online dating was a complete joke, until now. It's only been a few days but it's just the first of many to come. LOL. I am really curious which posts exactly that you read, that made you want to try POF. PS. The only ones I could think of would be the ones saying that girls do well vs. guys.
Author jennifer4 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 it was just a post basically mentioning you can search for yourself and not be matched, I seem to be matched to those that i find unattractive. It really seems like everyone wants to bash POF, great, there are scammers on any site. Gotta just weed them out. I'm taking it day by day, and that's the best I can do. POF or real life, there are "bad" guys anywhere. 1
KatZee Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 That's exactly what I was thinking. I tried Eharmony for a while and found it to be not too bad at all - actually I was pretty surprised with how good the quality was. Everything I heard about POF was just bad news all around. I've thought about trying Meetup, not so much to date per say but also meet new people. I went to one and found it was a lot of much older women and not many I'd click with. I find it's hard to get past the fear with some of the larger ones that you don't know anyone going in. Try slimming down your qualifications when you search for groups. I'm in NYC so the groups are endless, but the one's I've joined are all women my age, no one's weird at all. I was pleasantly surprised. I went in with the fear of not knowing anyone but one you go to your first meetup and then the second, it becomes super easy. Give it another shot!
apple OR orange Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 i dont like POF, ive been shot down in there forums for asking good questions, i cancelled my account (never met anyone, never got any return mails either) 1
trevzilla Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Oh God I truly hope you're joking. POF? Really? That's the bottom of the barrel when it comes to online dating. Try OKCupid, that's free but a step above POF. Match.com is even better. POF is NOTORIOUS for players, liars, booty calls, husbands cheating on wives, boyfriends cheating on girlfriends, and so on and so forth. I truly hope you keep your eyes open here. I've never heard anyone say, "I met the love of my life on POF." We just gave away 100,000 to a couple who met and got engaged on POF. So people do establish long term relationships. My player neighbor has girls over to his place all the time for romantic dinners, so I certainly would be cautious. He has no trouble establishing chemistry with women, but he can never hang on to them longer than a month or so.
TheBladeRunner Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 i dont like POF, ive been shot down in there forums for asking good questions, i cancelled my account (never met anyone, never got any return mails either) Yeah, that place is rough! Full of trolls and flamers; I cancelled too.
ascendotum Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 We just gave away 100,000 to a couple who met and got engaged on POF. So people do establish long term relationships. My player neighbor has girls over to his place all the time for romantic dinners, so I certainly would be cautious. He has no trouble establishing chemistry with women, but he can never hang on to them longer than a month or so. I had a player neighbor and its similar story. Seducing women online is a hobby for him, and naturally you get better at creating chemistry and spinning the words that get smiles from women the more you do it. My neighbor does not have trouble hanging on to them though. He is the one letting go or giving the women a reason to bail (sometimes deliberate sabotage & sometimes getting busted still setting up dates online) OP its really good you have struck it good straight off, but I think you are jumping the gun here. Getting dates with decent men & having sex with them is one thing, keeping them on is another...assuming you are looking for a relationship that lasts longer then a few months.
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