Lambchoper Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I'm in my early 30's and I went out with a man last night in his late 40's. We met up with some friends of his at some point, and the girl who was in our group, who is dating his friend, randomly asked me if I had any kids. It was right after she was talking to my guy, and I know he wanted to know. I look about 24 and am very fit (not that it matters). He doesn't know my age yet, so I'm sure he's assuming i'm in my mid 20s. Why would he want to know and get her to ask? It seemed pretty important to him if her got her to as me. He has two children 18 years old.
jcrew11 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 You know he has kids, would you want to know if he didn't tell you? Do you want to become a step mommy?
Author Lambchoper Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Yes it's fine. It's one thing if he asked me.. but the fact that he got his friend's gf to ask me which was weird.
StanMusial Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I'm in my early 30's and I went out with a man last night in his late 40's. We met up with some friends of his at some point, and the girl who was in our group, who is dating his friend, randomly asked me if I had any kids. It was right after she was talking to my guy, and I know he wanted to know. I look about 24 and am very fit (not that it matters). He doesn't know my age yet, so I'm sure he's assuming i'm in my mid 20s. Why would he want to know and get her to ask? It seemed pretty important to him if her got her to as me. He has two children 18 years old. Well that's a pretty important detail. It could be that he is done with the kids thing at his stage of life whereas at your age many women are itching to have a kid. Or maybe he is wondering about your availability to date in regards to schedules, etc. The fact is it could be any number of reasons really. Kids/No kids can be a deal breaker for a lot of people.
Author Lambchoper Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 yes that makes sense.. again, don't know why HE didn't just ask me instead of getting someone else to ask me.
JMCOSU838 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I'm in my early 30's and I went out with a man last night in his late 40's. We met up with some friends of his at some point, and the girl who was in our group, who is dating his friend, randomly asked me if I had any kids. It was right after she was talking to my guy, and I know he wanted to know. I look about 24 and am very fit (not that it matters). He doesn't know my age yet, so I'm sure he's assuming i'm in my mid 20s. Why would he want to know and get her to ask? It seemed pretty important to him if her got her to as me. He has two children 18 years old. How do you know that he wanted to know? Is is possible that this girl asked because she was curious, that she thought she was looking out for her friend, or for some other reason instead?
StanMusial Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 yes that makes sense.. again, don't know why HE didn't just ask me instead of getting someone else to ask me. Was this his friend? Maybe she was just trying to get to know you. That's not unusual. You're a female, surely you know how this works? 1
Author Lambchoper Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Well I probably said 2 words to the girl the whole night. and it was after they were kinda whispering for a second, she turned to me and asked..
FitChick Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Yes it's fine. It's one thing if he asked me.. but the fact that he got his friend's gf to ask me which was weird. Because if it turned out you had kids, he wouldn't be interested and it would spare him embarrassment if he asked you out.
Author Lambchoper Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 I would ask a girl if she had kids if we were in conversations and spoke more.. I honestly told her she had nice hair and that was all I said to her the whole night. Nothing more.. and I just know she was asking for him, but I thought it was kind of strange I guess because there was an awkward silence after because it was really out of the blue. Then she said she did but said nothing about the kid.
Author Lambchoper Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 we were on a date when this happened
StanMusial Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Well if you like this guy, don't get stuck in your head and sabotage yourself. Maybe she was asking on his behalf, maybe she was curious, who knows. I don't think it's an offense really.
Author Lambchoper Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 ok.. I didn't like how awkward she made it or why she would think I did. But, you are right.
jcrew11 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Maybe he didn't want to bring up a sensitive topic himself, obviously that should be information that a single dad or single mom should share right away. But he could have thought you were hiding a child from him, or you could be desperate to have a baby with your biological clock ticking. But the woman is probably just Gossipy and wants to find out as much info about you as possible. Also, if you did have kids, then women like to gossip about their kids and offer advice. Obviously, talking about their children is what 50 year olds talk about. As a 30 year old, you may be new to all this baby talk/teenager talk.
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