Kobe2345 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Hello, my ex girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago, she left me for another guy... I had a hard time getting over this lost relationship for the past 2 months, i have never been this sad my entire life, she was my first and i loved her with all my heart and unconditionally, I know i have done some good things for her, But there are times i just blame myself because its my fault, i might have bored her, i called out her friends sometimes saying they were too cool, i sometimes get angry at what she does and we would have fights but i always end up apologizing, and i get too protective at times, and not been there for her at times also, maybe i'm just inexperienced and don't know what a relationship is all about... and now i find myself regretting every stupid move i made. I asked for another chance to work it out, it was too late... she already has developed feelings for another guy, i feel like i don't deserve her, i find myself in pain this last two months, I've been getting mixed feelings that i hate her because she left me for another guy and told me BS excuses the "i need time to myself, i need to be on my own and i don;t know what i want" and blame me for everything, but i also feel like i deserved all this.... I know i have not been the best boyfriend, but i have not consider myself the worst of all time, and there are times i have put all my effort into her, and gave her all i had, however things just got comfortable and we took each other for granted.. She has moved on and been happy, but i find myself in deep sadness, i wanted to be there for her, i want to be that guy, but its all too late... however i find it hard to move on myself, and jist reminiscing every good time we both had for the past almost 3 years together... What do i do now? because i can't get my sh*t together....
NewPerspective93 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Was this your first relationship? First, don't place the blame on you, YOU be YOU. If she doesn't like it, that's not your problem. Also, you seemed to be a bit needy with the apologetic aspect you display here out of fear of making her mad/upset/etc. As for what you can do about the guy she's developing feelings for, let it go, you can't control the way she feels, and accepting this will make it a bit easier with moving on. What do you mean that you don't deserve her? The dual feeling jet is expected; first you miss the way things were between you and her and now you're pissed in the situation you're in, mainly from her actions. Give her the time to herself; why? Because you need it more. Take all the time you need for your recovery, if she then finds that she wants to talk to you, deny her the notion for your own sake, if you still harbor feelings for her. What makes you think you deserved all of this? What is done is done. You can only learn from your past. I hear you on the putting you effort onto the other party, and frankly, it doesn't yield anything to you, other than misery and pain. I really get this one, but just keep yourself busy and do stuff, OTHER than pining for her. I'm sorry you're going through this, but the best course of action for you is to move on. If you find yourself looking at her FB, block her and the guy. Remember, do this for yourself. You're worth it. When was the last time you contacted her? 1
Author Kobe2345 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 Yes it was my first, i feel alot better, just find myself reminsicing good times and she was not willing to work it out thats all, its sad but i haven;t contact her in almost 2 months already haha...
Am4Real Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Other than this board, you should do some external reading on the emotional stresses of going through a break up and the feeling you are having. There is a lot of good material out there written by well versed professionals both on the "net" and in the book store. STAY AWAY from the "How to Get Your EX Back" plethora of material out there.
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