Kaiten Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I would like to know the signs that your ex has moved on or has no intention of trying again in the near future. (The near future being a year or so). What are the signs that she has moved on? What are the signs that she is still holding on to her feelings for you? And what are the signs that she is confused or unsure? Please list the obvious signs as well as the more subtle, even imperceptible ones.
Am4Real Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I would like to know the signs that your ex has moved on or has no intention of trying again in the near future. (The near future being a year or so). What are the signs that she has moved on? What are the signs that she is still holding on to her feelings for you? And what are the signs that she is confused or unsure? Please list the obvious signs as well as the more subtle, even imperceptible ones. Sign 1: Is your phone ringing with her calling and asking to take her back? If Yes, then you were positively signaled. The end. If No, then no one has any damn idea and she does not want to fight for you. That's it, there is only one sign to worry about. The rest is just speculation, wishful thinking and games. 2
todreaminblue Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I would like to know the signs that your ex has moved on or has no intention of trying again in the near future. (The near future being a year or so). What are the signs that she has moved on? What are the signs that she is still holding on to her feelings for you? And what are the signs that she is confused or unsure? Please list the obvious signs as well as the more subtle, even imperceptible ones. Moving on is one of the hardest things to do , for me it takes forever...... saying i dont want to see you i dont think it would work...... is a clear indication she has moved on, if she continues to check up on you she has not moved on, when i am trying to move on I will actually avoid any and all contact.....or keep it to limited contact(here i go again).....if i have limited contact with someone i am not moving on i am actually wanting to see them but cant go no contact which honestly i feel.is the only way people move on.....i dont know your exes mind ....i have however pushed guys away from me when i feel myself falling for them or liking them too much.....its something i have done in the past......these guys have been nice guys....i dont want to involve them in my crap as i dont feel they would be strong enough to handle it......normally i push them away before i have to disclose my history which is right about the time intimacy heats up which is a bit sad...but i have done it regardless...... from your other thread your ex sounds like she is pushing but pulling you back at the same time......if you want her wait for her to tell you what she wants......but if you dont want to wait......go no contact...completely.......best wishes...deb
robaday Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Id say any strong signs of emotion are signs shes not over you - whether that be anger, sadness, or even abusive messages - its the indifference that tells you shes gone and aint coming back....and altho thats a cliche to say that hurts the worst!! 1
Author Kaiten Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 I appreciate that Deb. And thanks for reading my other thread it helps give a clear picture and thus, better replies. Thanks.
Author Kaiten Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Sign 1: Is your phone ringing with her calling and asking to take her back? If Yes, then you were positively signaled. The end. If No, then no one has any damn idea and she does not want to fight for you. That's it, there is only one sign to worry about. The rest is just speculation, wishful thinking and games. Surely there is more to it than that? There is more to the heart and mind of a woman than that.
Am4Real Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Kaiten, Hello. Of course there is more -- much more. However, if you don't break down the situation in simple terms, simple actions and easily digestible decisions (for you), you end up over-thinking, over-analyzing and laying out much hope for someone and something you have no idea about what is really going on. Your original questions was "I would like to know the signs that your ex has moved on or has no intention of trying again in the near future". If you think about it -- I answered your questions in a factual state. With all due respect, some of the posts you commented on as "good" are supporting the notion of "hope" and will make it even more difficult to accept that you are no longer together and in all likelihood never will be. Sorry, don't mean to deliver the hard message to you but someone has to point you towards the reality of the situation. Surely there is more to it than that? There is more to the heart and mind of a woman than that. 2
Author Kaiten Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 I suppose you are right Am4real. I have been trying to keep my hope up. But she hasnt fought really. She contacted me after i left her alone to check on me which made me wonder. I feel like its not over but i guess it is. I have no clue what she's thinking. But i know we still have feelings for each other. I guess its not enough
todreaminblue Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I appreciate that Deb. And thanks for reading my other thread it helps give a clear picture and thus, better replies. Thanks. whatever any one tells you on here they truly don't know the heart of the woman you care about ,loving some you know, isn't wrong,even if they don't love you back,god does that for every single human on the planet it cant be wrong to love one who doesn't love you, you are not wrong with anything you feel, or want or desire in your heart, you are the one to know her, if your heart tells you there is something there ,then listen to that heart of yours, not my advice not anyone elses', if your heart sinks you know what the answer is you will know what you have to do........without anyone telling you, i wish you much love in your life and hope things work out for you and yours..doesnt help i am listening to soppy love songs while writing this it affects my replies....do you see what i mean?imagine if someone is listening to thrash metal while replying to you and take that to heart.people reply with emotions that are sometimes bias......trust your heart...smilin.....good luck ...hugs....deb 1
todreaminblue Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Kaiten, Hello. Of course there is more -- much more. However, if you don't break down the situation in simple terms, simple actions and easily digestible decisions (for you), you end up over-thinking, over-analyzing and laying out much hope for someone and something you have no idea about what is really going on. Your original questions was "I would like to know the signs that your ex has moved on or has no intention of trying again in the near future". If you think about it -- I answered your questions in a factual state. With all due respect, some of the posts you commented on as "good" are supporting the notion of "hope" and will make it even more difficult to accept that you are no longer together and in all likelihood never will be. Sorry, don't mean to deliver the hard message to you but someone has to point you towards the reality of the situation. the reality is you dont know the woman in question so how can you define what she is really feeling...the only person who does know is the poster himself and the woman in question and your post was only one sided based on what the op asked in this post i posted after reading his other thread.which is why he posted this thread it is about a particular woman he wants answers and has given a broad spectrum of possibility in this post to cover all types of women.. I still think he should follow his heart...his heart knows better than you or i because he knows the woman..we never will....what reality are you talking about....the reality we will never know i might be totally over analysing but i think it does relate to one woman not all women...and i was posting on history of what the poster is struggling with and relating the op to that..i am actually being pretty logical and firmly got my feet in reality...and....... soppy love songs..........deb 2
Am4Real Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Moving on...letting go, whatever...you're cutting hairs! If there is not direct communication on the "wants" and must haves its all CRAP -- period! i might be totally over analysing but i think it does relate to one woman not all women...and i was posting on history of what the poster is struggling with and relating the op to that..i am actually being pretty logical and firmly got my feet in reality...and....... soppy love songs..........deb
na49 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Well, I guess signs would be if she seems happy without you. Then she's probably moved on. If you really want to know if she's moved on, I'd check her social media. That should give you a good idea, because girls who are emotionally distraught will write all about how miserable they are so people will feel sorry for them. Some guys even do this lol. None of us can get inside the head of our ex, so the only true way to know would be to ask. but sometimes their answer can be too painful for us to handle. 2
Author Kaiten Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 I have asked, na49. She is the proud type, i'll admit. There have been plenty of times where she was upset in public but wore the brightest smile. After she got home she would call me and tell me how upset she really was. When she's mad, my ex will not show it at all. She's not that big into social media right now but i guess i could check every now and then. 1
Author Kaiten Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 None of us can get inside the head of our ex, so the only true way to know would be to ask. but sometimes their answer can be too painful for us to handle. When i asked she always says she still loves me and misses me. I can tell she means it. I asked if she's moved on and she always redirects that particular question to me as if she were waiting for me to move on first. 1
todreaminblue Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I have asked, na49. She is the proud type, i'll admit. There have been plenty of times where she was upset in public but wore the brightest smile. After she got home she would call me and tell me how upset she really was. When she's mad, my ex will not show it at all. She's not that big into social media right now but i guess i could check every now and then. i am exactyl teh same, i can have the hugest smile on my face and be so cut up adn confused in side i can still wear that smile at least until i am alone......it takes em a while to tell peopel how i am really feeling a guy who knows me intimately will notice...what i have been told is that for a split second before i pu tthat smile on.........my eyes have intense sadness.......and my ex used to wait till i was aloen with him to talk i tout.......he woudl give me time with that smile in public.......and alone confrotn me ...which i would deny, deny deny .....and then ok i will tell. eventually I just gave in and told him what was wrong which normally involved tears....he put up with a lot....but then.....i always have put up with more...thats not a sob story just fact and reality....and you know ...........never give up hope...in the absence of hope lies fear..and hope .....lessness....you can always have hope.......its learning how to know when its time to find something new to hope for.....thats key......transferring that hope and broadening your horizon......until then.......you keep it close to you......and only you will know when its time to move on....no one else can tell you when that is certainly not jaded people on here including me i am jaded........you will know when to move on and feel hope in your heart next time will be ......all you hoped for...always live with hope never without.......deb
Am4Real Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Your writing is very difficult to read. Have you considered using a spell checker and perhaps writing in grammatically correct sentences? i am exactyl teh same, i can have the hugest smile on my face and be so cut up adn confused in side i can still wear that smile at least until i am alone......it takes em a while to tell peopel how i am really feeling a guy who knows me intimately will notice...what i have been told is that for a split second before i pu tthat smile on.........my eyes have intense sadness.......and my ex used to wait till i was aloen with him to talk i tout.......he woudl give me time with that smile in public.......and alone confrotn me ...which i would deny, deny deny .....and then ok i will tell. eventually I just gave in and told him what was wrong which normally involved tears....he put up with a lot....but then.....i always have put up with more...thats not a sob story just fact and reality....and you know ...........never give up hope...in the absence of hope lies fear..and hope .....lessness....you can always have hope.......its learning how to know when its time to find something new to hope for.....thats key......transferring that hope and broadening your horizon......until then.......you keep it close to you......and only you will know when its time to move on....no one else can tell you when that is certainly not jaded people on here including me i am jaded........you will know when to move on and feel hope in your heart next time will be ......all you hoped for...always live with hope never without.......deb
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