Kobe2345 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 (edited) Hello, my ex girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago, she left me for another guy... I had a hard time getting over this lost relationship for the past 2 months, i have never been this sad my entire life, she was my first and i loved her with all my heart and unconditionally, I know i have done some good things for her, But there are times i just blame myself because its my fault, i might have bored her, i called out her friends sometimes saying they were too cool, i sometimes get angry at what she does and we would have fights but i always end up apologizing, and i get too protective at times, and not been there for her at times also, maybe i'm just inexperienced and don't know what a relationship is all about... and now i find myself regretting every stupid move i made. I asked for another chance to work it out, it was too late... she already has developed feelings for another guy, i feel like i don't deserve her, i find myself in pain this last two months, I've been getting mixed feelings that i hate her because she left me for another guy and told me BS excuses the "i need time to myself, i need to be on my own and i don;t know what i want" and blame me for everything, but i also feel like i deserved all this.... I know i have not been the best boyfriend, but i have not consider myself the worst of all time, and there are times i have put all my effort into her, and gave her all i had, however things just got comfortable and we took each other for granted.. She has moved on and been happy, but i find myself in deep sadness, i wanted to be there for her, i want to be that guy, but its all too late... however i find it hard to move on myself, and jist reminiscing every good time we both had for the past almost 3 years together... What do i do now? because i can't get my sh*t together.... Edited March 22, 2013 by Kobe2345
WordvAction Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Simply put; you get your **** together. First, realize you weren't an absolute **** boyfriend who disregarded her,and it's not your fault. Relationships are give and take, and there is only so much one can give before. She didn't take the time and effort to make you feel better, and that whole "I don't deserve her" attitude is bull****. Stop putting her on a pedestal, she belongs down here with the rest of us. Next, realize you're only out of this for 2 months. It's a long road to recovery, and 2 months is a relatively short time in the scheme of things. Don't stress the fact that you're still not over her. What I tell everyone, and can vouch from personal experience, is you need to start going out and doing things, regardless of how much you'd rather pout in a corner. Going out and socializing with others will make you feel better, whether you want it to or not. And who knows, you may even meet someone that will take your mind off of her.
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