Sailynn Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 After nearly 6 months of NC, my ex-GF has been showing up at my health club, the club that we exercised in together. She seems to be making it a point to not speak, look, acknowledge or even see me. I even walked directly by her last week, she turned her head and tryed to appear invisible, but I spoke and said hello. She turned to reply with her head down and her eyes not looking at me, very shy, almost appearing guilty, shamed or scared. Last night, she showed up again. Out paths crossed again and this time, she threw up her hand, crooked her little fingers in a wave, yet did not keep eye contact and walked on by. She later came out of the dressing room as I was leaving and she began smiling and flirting with every guy around. I find these actions a little immature and she's middle aged. It's almost as if she is somewhat bitter at me because her life is not going as well as she expected, once she got rid of me. Oh well, I'll drive myself crazy thinking about this. I just tell myself everyday, that it's okay to love someone like I love her and it's okay to let them go. I can only control me and what I react to and how I think. I'm not going to let her run me off from my health club because I am getting tremendous health benefits from my dedication to exercise. I am curious, though. Does anyone have any experience with something of this nature? Why would a woman, who broke up with me, come around to a place where she knows I'll be in attendance? I can't believe she would be that indifferent and unfeeling. I mean, it has to affect her too. Is she tormenting me? If so, I'm not going to let her. Is she demonstrating that she's over me? Okay, Great! Is she demonstrating she's "on the hunt" in front of me? If so, that's childish.
aFighter Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 In my own personal opinion I think she's just trying to push your buttons. She wants to feel that she still has some power over you. It's an ego thing. Just ignore her childish attempts to get to you and carry on working out and living your own life, she'll get the hint sooner or later.
frogprinz29 Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 Seems as though she's playin' some high school head games. You're being the bigger more mature individual here. Good for you. It's almost as if she is somewhat bitter at me because her life is not going as well as she expected, once she got rid of me. Oh well, I'll drive myself crazy thinking about this. I just tell myself everyday, that it's okay to love someone like I love her and it's okay to let them go. Just do as you're doin' and don't give her the privilege of letting her get to you. Say your "hi"s if you're inclined, and walk away. Take it easy man, and keep poundin' them weights. She's lookin'.
Splatty Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 I agree with aFighter. She wants to get a reaction, try not to let her get to you. Also my guess it that she thought her life would be so great and different without you, but it wasn't. You seem like a great person, she probably realizes it now.
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