singme2sleep Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Maybe I've romanticized our whole relationship! If it was as great as I thought he wouldn't have left...or he would have come back already. Right?
TheDovic Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 It's normal to romanticise relationships when they end. It happens to us all regardless of how terrible the relationship actually was! When my ex dumped me I thought I was in a movie, expecting her to realise she was wrong and we'd live happily ever after. The reality however is that my ex is a sometimes violent insecure workaholic with OCD, who works 80+ hours per week. We had not had sex in over a year and I was not allowed to see her without clothes or make-up because she was "ugly" and "fat" despite the fact she was actually a UK size 6 (US size 0) and beautiful. Now reading my previous paragraph you'd expect that I would have been glad the relationship was over!? Nope!!! I was a mess and in my head our relationship was perfect, she was "the one" and I cannot live without her. Sometimes I want to kick my own ass for thinking like that but it's just the natural reaction people seem to have. So don't get frustrated that you feel this way. Just accept that you will for a while!! 1
Addison312 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 This annoys me so much. Whenever I think of his good attributes, I mentally envision my overgrown hand knocking his 2" body off a pedestal. I'm gonna try it constantly followed by something about him that sucks. Any other ideas? 1
Author singme2sleep Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 This annoys me so much. Whenever I think of his good attributes, I mentally envision my overgrown hand knocking his 2" body off a pedestal. I'm gonna try it constantly followed by something about him that sucks. Any other ideas? I tried to list my ex's bad qualities/aggravating habits but all I really can't up with was that he sometimes likes to sleep in his jeans. Sigh!
thefooloftheyear Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I tried to list my ex's bad qualities/aggravating habits but all I really can't up with was that he sometimes likes to sleep in his jeans. Sigh! Are you kidding? No one is that perfect...Did he leave you for J-Lo? Does he fart potpourri, too? All kidding aside, if you really look at it from a different perspective, you will realize that there had to be issues. We all put our signifficant others on a pedestal. Its normal. I do sympathize with you...Just hang in there...You sound like a great woman. I am sure there are a lot of awesome guys just waiting to get a hold of you and NEVER let you go... TFOY 2
Author singme2sleep Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 I do sympathize with you...Just hang in there...You sound like a great woman. I am sure there are a lot of awesome guys just waiting to get a hold of you and NEVER let you go... TFOY Thank you, that's so sweet! And he didn't leave me for J.Lo lol he left me to be alone. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Thank you, that's so sweet! And he didn't leave me for J.Lo lol he left me to be alone. No.... He didnt leave you alone..He "left" you so you can give all that goodness to someone else who will appreciate it like no other...trust me! TFOY
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