mtnbiker3000 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Sorry to keep blasting this forum, but as I think of things I just like to write them out and get some feedback from you all. Hope you don't mind Anywho, as I think about my relationship I notice that my ex never got my sense of humor. Now I have never been the tallest, most handsome or charming guy in the room. But I have always done well in social (and romantic) situations by having a quick wit and making others smile or laugh. This has always served me well as I think it immediately releases any tension or awkwardness. Makes people feel at ease and relaxed. But, ever since we started dating (3 years), I could never get any reaction out of the ex. She just didn't find me very funny at all. Eventually, I just stopped doing this. Really, stopped being myself, as this is a big part of my personality. I am really noticing this now, because since the BU, I am back to being who I am and making others feel relaxed through humor and wit - and people (girls) respond as I remember before being with the ex. I guess this is just another red flag I should have seen, and definitely will keep an eye out for next time. I am compiling a list of deal breakers to watch out for in the future. Anybody experiencing similar phenomenon after their BU?? 2
Cogee Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 (edited) Because of doing grad school and long distance at the same time I didn't have as much time to enjoy the things that I really enjoyed doing before I met my ex. Photography is fun but when you really get into it, it can be quite time consuming (in a good way though!). Unfortunately I had to rank things in my life and I put school first, relationship second, everything else lower. Once she broke up I went back to my photos and found that when I started sharing them again people were so happy and cheering my return! It made me realize that a big part of me was missing during this time and she didn't realize what kind of sacrifices I was making in order to be with her. As far as a lesson learned: I need to give more time to myself and spend a little effort to reassure her that it makes me happy and consequently I can be happier with her! Edited March 22, 2013 by Cogee
destroyed4sho Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 actually, i was also funny and happy before the ex...after her constant criticism and that my jokes were cheesy and hers were better...i just stopped joking, laughing and being me. i think she damaged me so bad , i dont see any of my humour or good social behavior coming back yet. im always in my head now.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 (edited) actually, i was also funny and happy before the ex...after her constant criticism and that my jokes were cheesy and hers were better...i just stopped joking, laughing and being me. i think she damaged me so bad , i dont see any of my humour or good social behavior coming back yet. im always in my head now. Ahhh, you'll come back around And it will probably be like my situation. You will see the return of how people respond to you and you'll realize you're a better person than you were with her. Well, at least a funnier/happier person!! Edited March 22, 2013 by mtnbiker3000
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