JBB84 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I've been [officially] in no contact with my ex since Feb 21, even though I have refused to see her since the end of January. She has texted me several times. Last Saturday she said asked how I was and said "Miss you" and she just texted me again this morning asking How's Life. I chose to respond last Saturday as I was in an exotic location and decided to let her know that I was staring at a gorgeous ocean (while she was sitting here in the cold northeast with her dorky AFC seeming new boyfriend). For a quick background - we were friends first, who occasionally hooked up, and then for about 5 months were basically a couple - hooking up all the time, hanging out every weekend, not seeing others. This was until she decided to end things, but is very persistent about still wanting me as a friend. She has a new boyfriend and is out of her mind if she thinks I will be her friend and hang out with them ever. We do have mutual friends, which presents a slight problem, but I've been keeping my distance from all. I'm just really, genuinely confused about why she texts me things like she misses me and asking how my life is going. Shouldn't she be more interested in her new relationship? Do you think she secretly thinks she made a mistake? I would never take her back after what she did, the trust is shattered and I lost all respect for her, but I'm just wondering why she is doing this to me. Its really frustrating. Does anyone have advice on how to handle this?
Chi townD Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Well, if she made a mistake, then that's a mistake she has to live with because you don't have to. Obviously, you're not comfortable with being her friend. Too much pain there. So, I think you're answering your own question. Personally, I think she feels bad that she's moving on and she thinks that you're not because she has someone and you don't. She just wants to ease her guilt and make sure you're in the friend zone. 3
Author JBB84 Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Yeah, I think you're probably right about her trying to ease her own guilt. That makes me feel better about not responding to her. I don't owe her anything. She's the one who didn't want this.
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