ToyStoryThree Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 This has been asked SO many times on these forums, but what on Earth is the reasoning behind them? After agreeing we weren't going to be friends two weeks ago, and telling each other to 'take care', etc... I get a text today, with a picture showing me the trainers she'd bought, and thanking me for telling her to get them?! Just out of the blue, no hi, no how are you etc...?! I mean, is that not something that she could have just kept to herself? Thought, "he was right, these ARE nice" and left it at that? There was no need at all to get in contact with me - none. I feel it was an excuse to contact me - for what reason, I don't know!
Grumpybutfun Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Simply, she thought of you. Re- enforce your boundaries if you do not want to be friends. Grumps 1
Author ToyStoryThree Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Simply, she thought of you. Re- enforce your boundaries if you do not want to be friends. Grumps Well, this is what I thought - but we agreed not to talk, and I just found it a bit... selfish. But perhaps it's selfish of me to not want her to do that - she is free to do what she wants, I guess.
destroyed4sho Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 she wants to friendzone you and be comforted that you will be there if she decides to text you. 1
Author ToyStoryThree Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 she wants to friendzone you and be comforted that you will be there if she decides to text you. :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:
Chi townD Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Some try to gage where your head is at. To see if you hate them or are extremely angry with them. Others do it for an Ego stroke. Them telling you that they miss you and hoping that you come back with an, "I really miss you too." Gives them an Ego stroke knowing that you still desire them.
McGriff Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 What Chi town says is exactly what my ex did. Sent me an I love you and miss you text, I answered love and miss you too. Suckerrrrrrr. Then a week ago Sunday she sent me "I kinda wanna come and snuggle with you" and I responded positively, she never showed up. Suckerrrrrr! I completely stroked her ego, free of charge. I have since cut that off. One thing I've learned from LS, is that breadcrumbs are just that, breadcrumbs. They are meant to keep you on a string, and stroke their ego. If that message isn't "I love you, I messed up, I want to do whatever it takes to get you back" it's a breadcrumb and needs to be IGNORED!! 6
Author ToyStoryThree Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 It is pretty annoying, tbh. I just don't get it, it's not something I would do, had I ever dumped.
Sososad Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Think some exs just like to play games And it's a little mind game to trigger Your memory of them .. Really not fair at all .. This sort of stuff can Set u right back especially when your just getting some where Even if u don't reply you can wreck your head trying To interpret meanings behind stuff!
thefooloftheyear Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 What Chi town says is exactly what my ex did. Sent me an I love you and miss you text, I answered love and miss you too. Suckerrrrrrr. Then a week ago Sunday she sent me "I kinda wanna come and snuggle with you" and I responded positively, she never showed up. Suckerrrrrr! I completely stroked her ego, free of charge. I have since cut that off. One thing I've learned from LS, is that breadcrumbs are just that, breadcrumbs. They are meant to keep you on a string, and stroke their ego. If that message isn't "I love you, I messed up, I want to do whatever it takes to get you back" it's a breadcrumb and needs to be IGNORED!! Thats awful....What a heartless move...Sheesh, friggin child.. Stay strong dude.. TFOY
Author ToyStoryThree Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Think some exs just like to play games And it's a little mind game to trigger Your memory of them .. Really not fair at all .. This sort of stuff can Set u right back especially when your just getting some where Even if u don't reply you can wreck your head trying To interpret meanings behind stuff! Exactly - it's not that they miss you, or want you. They're just like "HEYYY, REMEMBER ME?!"
Drummerboy420 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 What an awful thing, these breadcrumbs.. What's worse is that my ex has told me she wants to send me a breadcrumb. In that she wants to acknowledge my birthday somehow (it's in April), when I said goodbye to her for good on St. Patty's Day. I'm trying not to think about it because it screws me up. If it is a text or phone call, I will ignore it. She's into sending cards, too. So I guess I could always toss it. Unless it actually says what I want it to say. And I know it won't. Why can't they just leave us alone? Seriously.
Damaged23 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Exactly - it's not that they miss you, or want you. They're just like "HEYYY, REMEMBER ME?!" Exactly!!!!! My ex sent me a text saying he left his resume in my car. A resume?!? Really dude?! You can print that schyt anywhere!! I found it so disrespectful!!
Grumpybutfun Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 The most poignant thing is to find a woman who likes and respects you for the long haul. All these other games and hurdles do not have to be played or jumped. Grumps 1
Author ToyStoryThree Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 Exactly!!!!! My ex sent me a text saying he left his resume in my car. A resume?!? Really dude?! You can print that schyt anywhere!! I found it so disrespectful!! Oh for God's sake. And then I bet he just disappeared all over again? Which is what mine has done - although it does make me laugh just how predictable their behaviour is!
OnMyTod Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 My ex split with me, three weeks later a pic pops on Facebook (her birthday) and she's out in London at some swanky place. it was so obviously a table for two. So next day I texted her and said I had to block her as I didn't deserve to have my face rubbed in it. She said fine, she respected and cared for me 'and I'm here at the end of the phone if you need a friend'? How cold is that. Next week she came down from where she now lives and I was out we bumped into each other. She told me I couldn't give her what she wanted. Cut a long story short that night we still ended up in bed together, she basically cheated on her new guy with me. in the morning she then proceeded to tell me about this new guy who's ready to spoil her, said things t me that just tore me to bits after she buggered off back to him. She then cut off all contact with me. I was shattered and in bits but one night talking to a friend and whining he hit me with a Facebook picture of her and this new guy and the caption read 'me and my man'. i know I have had a lucky escape but have been left in bits. I suppose my closure should be that she dangled herself in front of me and screwed me over and that boy am I lucky I found out what she's really like. Still, I have been left with one massive bruised ego and have had a horrible time of it the last six weeks. Breadcrumbs to me = hurt games and anyone who throws them don't deserve to be with you at all. Move on, however hard it is. What goes around comes around and this new guy she's with, well I hope they're happy and he doesn't get played like I did. But he will have to find out the hard way like I did I suppose.
thefooloftheyear Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I cant understand why these women are giving sex to guys that they break up with and have no intention on keeping. Thats as cruel as it gets...Reading a lot of this lately. WTF? Hang in there man. She just proved what a POS she is. Look at it that way. TFOY
OnMyTod Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Yes left me feeling like absolute ****. Care and respect for me? She's very egocentric and new guy is going to be 'spoiling her rotten' not having a clue what she did. Almost feel sorry for him. I am not the bitter and twisted type but one day down the line if it goes wrong and I hear about it I will just smile and think 'karma'. Ha ha.
GB25 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 (edited) Exactly!!!!! My ex sent me a text saying he left his resume in my car. A resume?!? Really dude?! You can print that schyt anywhere!! I found it so disrespectful!! Ha my ex sent me a text after about 1.5 months of no contact " do you know if we ordered the mussels with the red sauce or the white sauce at vito's that time we went" REALLY? no hello, no how are you..just this question. Ask the damn waiter which one is better...you really needed to text me that after you dicked me over..no class So the whole " heyyy remember me" thing is very true. I dont think she cared all that much about the mussels ( or maybe she truly was that curious and didnt wanna order the wrong thing, but that seems bizarre) but more to basically try to remember she still exists. This place is also a serious date spot and the first date we went on...maybe also she was trying to hint she was on a date..who knows Edited March 24, 2013 by GB25
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