I am struggling to meet girls due to lifestyle, be interesting to hear from others...

[White_Walker]

Basically, I am 24 and I find it hard to meet girls. My problem is, I live at home with my dad and I'm unemployed. It is difficult to find work right now, but I am trying.

 

See, I have a problem of over thinking things too much. For example, this job and living situation. I end up thinking whether a girl will judge me for living at home still etc. It's not so much the unemployment factor as I can hide that from them and use my savings if I wanted to take a girl out.

 

I never went to University or got a degree and I was wondering whether I should go back to education, but the problem with that is, that I have no idea what I want to study. I have many interests, but I cannot single anything out that I would want to study for career.

 

I love acting. I have been a part of an amateur drama group, but I've never jumped into acting in a serious way. I thought about Drama School, but it's highly competitive, not to mention the low employment rate for graduates.

 

Anyway, If anyone can help out with this, it would mean a lot. I am a decent looking guy, I just feel insecure about my situation at the moment. I get attention from girls, but lack the belief in myself right now, which is frustrating because some of the girls are cute too! haha.

[Grumpybutfun]

There is something in you that knows that you aren't fulfilling your potential. Decision making isn't your strong suit and that is okay. You are 24. Education is something that you get into then figure out what you want to do after taking some core classes which you will do your Freshman year anyway. Most colleges do not expect you to have a major until your sophmore or Junior year.

As someone who dabbled in theater, keep in mind that acting isn't the only way to go...there is scene design, costumes, writing, etc. I ended up writing a few plays which have been on the stage locally and that has brought me a great deal of satisfaction. The opportunities are endless.

I want to caution you from waiting too much longer for life to happen for you. It is easy to be a student and new employee at 24 but if you wait too long you will lose all your confidence and be waiting for something to happen in your life until you are too old and tired to really do somethign great.

I wouldn't worry so much about girls right now as your happiness and productivity...you simply need to find your place and your passions in the world and they will appear. Don't sit on the sidelines waiting for something to happen for you...go out and make things happen for you. No one has ever told me what to do, but I have always known that doing something is better than doing nothing and waiting for my life to start.

Grumps

[TheGuard13]

I read your first two paragraphs, and was going to give you this advice anyway, but then I saw your fourth paragraph.

 

Join a community theatre if you haven't already, regardless of whether you have a degree in it (It matters surprisingly little sometimes). If you really love acting, it will open up all sorts of opportunities for you to better yourself and make yourself happier. And it's a great way to meet interesting (often somewhat crazy) women.

Edited March 22, 2013 by TheGuard13

[jcrew11]

Join a Yoga class - girls who are into hippie new-age stuff usually don't care about unemployed guys.

[JMCOSU838]

Basically, I am 24 and I find it hard to meet girls. My problem is, I live at home with my dad and I'm unemployed. It is difficult to find work right now, but I am trying.

 

See, I have a problem of over thinking things too much. For example, this job and living situation. I end up thinking whether a girl will judge me for living at home still etc. It's not so much the unemployment factor as I can hide that from them and use my savings if I wanted to take a girl out.

 

I never went to University or got a degree and I was wondering whether I should go back to education, but the problem with that is, that I have no idea what I want to study. I have many interests, but I cannot single anything out that I would want to study for career.

 

I love acting. I have been a part of an amateur drama group, but I've never jumped into acting in a serious way. I thought about Drama School, but it's highly competitive, not to mention the low employment rate for graduates.

 

Anyway, If anyone can help out with this, it would mean a lot. I am a decent looking guy, I just feel insecure about my situation at the moment. I get attention from girls, but lack the belief in myself right now, which is frustrating because some of the girls are cute too! haha.

 

People are motivated in varying ways I suppose, but I don't know if going back to college in order to meet women is necessarily the best use of your time and money. There are certainly easier and cheaper ways to meet women.

[FitChick]

Go into sales, maybe phone sales or customer sercvice. You can use your acting skills so the job won't seem tedious.

 

I wouldn't go into debt to get a degree that may prove useless unless you knew exactly what you wanted to do. Plenty of people with degrees are unemployed with massive school debt.

 

Network through your theater group to get any sort of a job. That could lead to another job and so on.

[StanMusial]

You need to get yourself sorted out it seems. This is not really a dating question, if what you say is true you should be able to pull some girls.