Maceltics21 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 23 and problems with girls. I'm embarrassed to say this but I'm 23 and I've never even kissed a girl. I'm still a virgin which I think is ok because I want to be in love for my first time. I'm not overweight or anything (I run 3-7 miles a day) and I shower daily plus shave and wear nice clothes. I'm really picky though when it comes to girls. The girls I attract are all 18 and 19 who I feel have a lower maturity level and I can't gain a connection. Older women at my work (in there 30s) tell me I'm a total catch and i will find a girl one day. I feel like times running out though. I have one year left of school before my career will consume most of my time. I have a job a car and everything going for me but the girls I want never feel the same about me. Or the girls I want have boyfriends. I look around and see everyone else in relationships and I feel like I'm so far behind. Can anyone give me advice? My friends tell me to hook up with the girls who are attracted to me but I feel bad because I wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings if I was just in it for lust. Everyone tells me don't settle for less than what you deserve. I consider myself to be a true gentleman around girls. How can I get a good girl? I reposted this because I saw I posted in the wrong section.
normal person Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 A decent girl will hopefully recognize the decent qualities in you. However the phrase "can't attract the types I want" suggests that you're just waiting around for them to approach you. This happens, but it's not the most typical method. If they aren't approaching you, you should find the girls you like and actively pursue them, not sit around and wait. If you sit around and wait, it allows them to think of a reason why you're not approaching them and usually it won't be a good one. You haven't been very specific about your methodology but I would probably suggest stepping out of your comfort zone and being a little more proactive in the pursuit of the girls you do like. You can do this tastefully without being a creep. Find a sensible way to demonstrate some of your attractive qualities, and if you get responsiveness, proceed from there.
hppr Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I'm really picky though when it comes to girls. The girls I attract are all 18 and 19 who I feel have a lower maturity level and I can't gain a connection. How do you know that? I've met tons and tons of 30 year olds who still act like they are in high school, hoping for the popular jock to wink at them while the 18-20 year old girls are going to school to study nursing/business, have their own cars and apartments etc. You're looking for perfection and sabotaging yourself before you even start. Tell you what; if you really are attracting girls who are 18, 19, 20, chat em up and go out with a few of them. You're not looking for a wife, just have a good time and enjoy your life while you can. Who knows, some of those girls might surprise you with their intelligence and maturity.
hppr Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 My friends tell me to hook up with the girls who are attracted to me but I feel bad because I wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings if I was just in it for lust. Everyone tells me don't settle for less than what you deserve. I consider myself to be a true gentleman around girls. How can I get a good girl? 1) you're friends are giving you decent advice in a way, you need to go on dates and get out a bit. That's how you meet girls. 2) too many people confuse "deserve" with "what I want". What you want and what you actually get are oftentimes two very different things as you are finding out now. 3) being a gentleman is fine but take some initiative, good girls aren't going to come to you gotta get out there and find them. Going out with those girls who are attracted to you is a step in the right direction.
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