LMNO Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 What makes a rebound a rebound? Is it automatically the first relationship you are in after another, or is there a specific criteria that defines it?
Foxy Brown Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 You know, I was asking myself this yesterday. I don't think it's the first relationship you enter into after your break up, because what if you waited several years before even dating again? For me, it has to do with intentions. If you enter into a new relationship after a break up because you don't want to be lonely and are trying to regain the feeling of companionship you had with your ex, then it would be a rebound. I think it's more about filling up the empty space by your side that was previously occupied by your ex, for whatever reasons (sex, companionship, romantic feelings, revenge on the ex, etc.). It's not about the new person, it's about trying to get what you're missing from your ex. Or get back at your ex, in some cases. However I've never been in a rebound before so this is just my (inexperienced) take on it. 5
Am4Real Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I think you are exactly correct!! It's normally entered to ease the pain of a loss or mimic the feelings one had with their EX. Been on both sides of the equation and the innocent party always gets HURT VERY BADLY while the person initiating the rebound makes excuses for why the rebound did not work out or why they were justified in having a rebound relationship. And then the affected hurt and confused "rebounder" joins us all here on LS You know, I was asking myself this yesterday. I don't think it's the first relationship you enter into after your break up, because what if you waited several years before even dating again? For me, it has to do with intentions. If you enter into a new relationship after a break up because you don't want to be lonely and are trying to regain the feeling of companionship you had with your ex, then it would be a rebound. I think it's more about filling up the empty space by your side that was previously occupied by your ex, for whatever reasons (sex, companionship, romantic feelings, revenge on the ex, etc.). It's not about the new person, it's about trying to get what you're missing from your ex. Or get back at your ex, in some cases. However I've never been in a rebound before so this is just my (inexperienced) take on it. 3
Author LMNO Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 You know, I was asking myself this yesterday. I don't think it's the first relationship you enter into after your break up, because what if you waited several years before even dating again? For me, it has to do with intentions. If you enter into a new relationship after a break up because you don't want to be lonely and are trying to regain the feeling of companionship you had with your ex, then it would be a rebound. I think it's more about filling up the empty space by your side that was previously occupied by your ex, for whatever reasons (sex, companionship, romantic feelings, revenge on the ex, etc.). It's not about the new person, it's about trying to get what you're missing from your ex. Or get back at your ex, in some cases. However I've never been in a rebound before so this is just my (inexperienced) take on it. That makes perfect sense Foxy. Pretty much what I figured as well 1
mike588 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 What makes a rebound a rebound? Is it automatically the first relationship you are in after another, or is there a specific criteria that defines it? Yeah I was a rebound. I hooked up with an old friend from many years ago and we started dating. She told me she was only about a month out of a almost 2 year relationship but I foolishly believed her when she told me she would NEVER EVER go back to him. Well after dating about a year she went back to him and it hurt like hell. I realized I was just her emotional bandaid from her ex and even though I know she loved me she was still IN LOVE with her ex. That was over a year ago and it was a tough lesson learned....be very careful dating someone "fresh" out of a relationship.
McGriff Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Oh man, my situation is a case study for a rebound as my ex actually told me in the beginning that she "might be rebounding". I barreled ahead anyway, and even though she claimed that I was the love of her life, and even brought marriage and kids, 5 glorious months later, she dumped me out of the blue and went back to him. Hurts. Like. Hell. I learned my lesson.
Joaquin Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 (edited) Being THE rebound can fell the hardiest of us. You get sucked in. You get spat out. But you also get an incredible lesson. You don't forget it. You learn to let people deserve your trust and your heart. You don't give it away to people you don't really know. Edited March 23, 2013 by Joaquin 2
grace777 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 What if both parties are "rebounding"? My ex (of 3 years) broke up with me and within a week was in a new relationship with her current partner. Her current partner also left her ex (of 7 years) to be with my ex. They've been exclusively together for 5 months, and moving at light speed...discussing marriage, kids, etc. Is this a double-rebound? What is the success possibility in this scenario? Or is it even a rebound? 2
Joaquin Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 (edited) What if both parties are "rebounding"? My ex (of 3 years) broke up with me and within a week was in a new relationship with her current partner. Her current partner also left her ex (of 7 years) to be with my ex. They've been exclusively together for 5 months, and moving at light speed...discussing marriage, kids, etc. Is this a double-rebound? What is the success possibility in this scenario? Or is it even a rebound? Is it a rebound? You don't really know until all is said and done. Often those involved don't even know or want to acknowledge it. Edited March 23, 2013 by Joaquin
RiceaRoni Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 What if both parties are "rebounding"? My ex (of 3 years) broke up with me and within a week was in a new relationship with her current partner. Her current partner also left her ex (of 7 years) to be with my ex. They've been exclusively together for 5 months, and moving at light speed...discussing marriage, kids, etc. Is this a double-rebound? What is the success possibility in this scenario? Or is it even a rebound? I was having the same question... My ex and his new gf I think left each other's SO to be with each other?
grace777 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I know - and it seems people are so easy to say "it's a rebound" on this site, but when I talk about both parties leaving relationships for "rebounds", I hear crickets...
NewPerspective93 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I feel that a rebound is when a person who was in a relationship, usually the dumpee, hurries into a new relationship for the purpose of moving on and forgetting the other person, as well as to replace that persons' place. Not the best way to go...
grace777 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 still wondering about thoughts on the double rebound...? 1
Love4Pain Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 It's a possibility that they are both rebounding with each other but they themselves might not call it that. If I really cared about someone, I can't just get over them in a week, so there's no way I would be back out and dating again. I'm not sure if this is always true or not, but I read on someone's post somewhere that relationships that start with infidelity have a 1% chance of lasting ( the other person left their ex for your ex you said?) But honestly who knows how long their relationship will last, it could end next month, they could be together for 5 years. 1
RiceaRoni Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I feel that a rebound is when a person who was in a relationship, usually the dumpee, hurries into a new relationship for the purpose of moving on and forgetting the other person, as well as to replace that persons' place. Not the best way to go... I've heard dumpers do the same... 1
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