Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 You'de be not really serious about what? Your job? Your desire to travel? This sounds more like you judging yourself than her judging you. And so what if she does reach that conclusion? She has the right to reach her own conclusions. But you're the one who decides whether or not you are serious, not her. You'll be allowed to disagree with her assessment of you. You know yourself way better than someone you've hardly met. Serious about wanting a relationship vs casual dating or something. I'd be worried that she thought I was some kind of tumbleweed.
Kamille Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Serious about wanting a relationship vs casual dating or something. I'd be worried that she thought I was some kind of tumbleweed. Ok. Do you want a serious relationship? Yes? Then if she concludes, for her own reasons, that you don't, she's mistaken. Her problem. You, in the meantime, have to figure out if she can provide you with what you want.
White_Walker Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 (edited) I've been exchanging messages with a woman from a dating site. She and I have some things in common (a lot of things that are important to me in fact). But I have a feeling things won't go very far between us. We haven't even agreed to a date yet, so perhaps I'm being premature, but it's kind of a general question too. I just feel like I'm 25, she's 28. She's a lawyer with lots of professional experience. Iv'e got a BA with practically no professional experience. I don't know her living situation, but I'm willing to bet she doesn't live at home and share a room with a sibling. She's traveled a lot, I've never gone outside the US (not even to Canada), even though I would love to at some point. Whatever we might have in common, I think these factors will overtake everything. I know not all dates lead to relationships, and that's fine. But do people go on dates that they already know won't go anywhere? A date would be a wonderful experience for me, I just don't want to totally embarrass myself. Any thoughts? Why didn't you try going for a girl younger than you who would be in a similar position? Most guys go for girls younger than themselves. To be fair, I'm not really the best person to give advice, seeing as I'm usually one to over-think things. What is your B.A in? At least you've got a degree and possibly the chance of getting work. I am nearly 25 and never had a degree, and I'm unemployed, so you're doing better than me! lol Also, why not go on a simple date? Something like a game of pool with a little food? Edited March 22, 2013 by White_Walker
FitChick Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 (edited) I just don't want to her to feel like I'm wasting her time, you know? If she already knows those basics about you and still wants to meet, then why not? Some women like to be in control and want a guy who feels he couldn't do better so would never leave. You could ask her if she is a Seinfeld fan. If she is, tell her you are like George Costanza. I have a friend who is a lawyer and when she was late-20s, she dated an IT guy for a while. Then she moved away. It happens. Edited March 22, 2013 by FitChick
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Why didn't you try going for a girl younger than you who would be in a similar position? Most guys go for girls younger than themselves. To be fair, I'm not really the best person to give advice, seeing as I'm usually one to over-think things. What is your B.A in? At least you've got a degree and possibly the chance of getting work. I am nearly 25 and never had a degree, and I'm unemployed, so you're doing better than me! lol Also, why not go on a simple date? Something like a game of pool with a little food? Well, I just message any woman who appears to have stuff in common with me who I find attractive. In this case, she's 28, but I've messaged women who are 20-25 before too.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 So...I wrote this girl off after I didn't hear back from her for 3 days. I checked using a dummy profile and she did indeed log in during those days. What's the optimal response here? Do I respond now or wait a while? Or still write her off? What gives? Do you usually wait a while if you're interested in meeting a person?
carhill Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 What's the optimal response here? IMO, crickets. No biggie. Next. Always something else. 1
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