Ex gave me an ultimatum. But there's ANOTHER GIRL. I'm angry and torn?

[BrokenHearted101]

Ex and I broke up over a month ago. Since then, we've met up a couple times, and texted/called several times (all but one of these he has initiated).

 

Last Tuesday, he and I got breakfast (a favorite old routine of ours). He held my hand, asked if i was seeing anyone (I'm not), and told he hasn't been out with anyone either. After breakfast, he kissed me. Several times. ANd told he loved me.

 

For some reason, I seemed to think this would be the beginning of things getting better. So it was odd to me when I didnt hear from him on Wednesday. All I got was a "goodnight" text. The next day, after not hearing from him all day, I called him Thursday night. He was very nonchalent and quickly wanted to get off the phone to finish packing (he was leaving early the next AM with his best friend for spring break). Something seemed very wrong, and very odd.

 

All this week, he's been texting me every day. And it's becoming more and more flirty, I'm starting to get "I love yous", pics and affectionate texts. Tonight, he asked me where I am. Unbeknownst to him, I've been in San Diego, all week, about 50 miles south of where he is. He told me he's coming down here tomorrow, with his best friend, best friend's girlfriend, and a girl named Kati.

 

***Let me add a footnote here: The day he and I broke up, a girl named Kati had been texting him (she was into him). She had recently added him on facebook. She goes to the same university we do (she's even the same major I am, and has been in some of my classes), but is from Southern California. Close to where we are on break.***

 

I put 1+1 together about the same time he texted: "Can I be frank with you?" I called him, and he told he and kati "met up last week before break." He told me she's in San Diego tomorrow with her family, and wants him to meet up with her and meet her family. I said, "So, when's the wedding?" I asked him if he was romantically interested in her. He said no. I asked if he kissed her--He wouldn't answer. He said, "That's none of your business!" I replied, "Oh, I think it is, becuase we're talking. And you kissed ME last week, too." Come on ladies, we're not STUPID. Why would she want him to meet her family? Also, I must add he's not a random hook up sort of guy (he's only kissed a handful of girls in his life, and it means something to him, so i dont know how he could go out, meet a girl in person for the FIRST TIME, and swap salivia right then and there.)

 

He said quote: "Look, I'm coming to San Diego tomorrow. I can see her, or I can see you. I would rather see you, Emma. I had this weird feeling I needed to ask you where you were, and I find it ironic we're across the country from school but in the same city. It's been a rough month for me, and a lot has changed..I can't see myself growing old with anyone but you. And I dont want to. So please give me the chance ot see you tomorrow. I want a fresh start for us, I want a first time for us."

 

So, he's coming to see me tomorrow.I should be thrilled. Instead, I feel sick.

 

I've been trying to sort through my feelings and this is what I'm coming up with: If he loved me the way I love him, how did he even have the space in his heart to "meet up" with a girl last week, not to mention..just a MAXIMUM OF TWO DAYS, AFTER HE WENT TO BREAKFAST WITH ME? Maybe that would all be be fine, except he was pursuing ME last monday/tuesday. He was telling ME he loved me, and he was kissing ME. Yet he had time in his heart and schedule ot go out with a girl, and probably kiss her, on wednesday or thursday?

 

Additionally, if I were in Cincinnati for spring break, like I was initially suppose to be, and where he thought I was, he would still be going out with Kati and her family tomorrow.

 

Lastly, even if he and I do meet up tomorrow, and have this wonderful "Jack and Rose" moment on the beach, how do I know he wont have already met up with Kati and family, and have lied to me about it? It would be downright easy. The city isn't that big. And even if he didnt, how would I know when we all come back from spring break and go back to school..He wouldnt start seeing her without me knowing? It would be easy.

 

I'm very frustrated, I feel sick, and literally dizzy right now. I want him,but some part of me is stronger now and wants to spit venom in his face and tell him if he wants me he needs to come after me and only me, hands down. I wont compete for his affections with some other girl.

 

I.need.advice. Does anyone else see what I'm saying. Is there anything glaringly obvious that needs to be pointed out?

[darkmoon]

"if he wants me he needs to come after me and only me, hands down. I wont compete for his affections with some other girl" i agree, but watch for "spitting venom" i mean, if you still like him and want to give things a chance, a hissy fit is off-putting, i think