Rebecca1134 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I just found out that my ex of 6 years has a new girlfriend. We've been on and off for like the past 3 years, and have dated people in between the break ups, but this one hurts the most for some reason. He dated her for about a month while we were broken up, then he cheated on her with me and dumped her. Fast forward about a year later (now) and hes back with her. Him and I stopped talking about 2 months ago. I feel completely useless and disgusted that he is back with her. He swore up and down that he didnt regret leaving her to come back to me. Even yesterday (I texted him and asked about her) he was telling me how Im better in every way. how he doesnt care all that much about her, she cant replace me, blahblahblah.....also even told me that he still loves me. Today he was totally cold and mean to me. Told me not to sabotage his relationship, that hes happy with her, she makes him feel secure. I asked him why he said all of that stuff the day prior to which he said he was lost in his emotions. I feel gutted. We were each other's first loves and soul mates. I've tried dating and it just makes me miss him more. How is he able to just push any feelings for me aside??? I'm having a really really hard time with this. I feel like a pile of ****. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.:(:(:(
focussed Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Being in your spot a while ago, coming out of a 5 year RL, the best piece of advice I can offer is to focus on yourself. Do the things you've always wanted to do, reconnect with friends that you haven't spoken to in a while, join a club, go the gym. Just keep yourself busy that way you're not focussed on them. 1
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Rebecca, you got great advice in your other thread. Multi-posting threads isn't going to diffuse the pain, you're just going to have multi-threads all reading the same advice: Focus on you focus on your healing - and follow the advice in your other thread. Go No Contact. I'm sure it's not the kind of advice you want to hear, but trust me, it's the best you'll get.....
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