problemchild Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I broke up with my girlfriend at the end of Jan. I am 22 and she is 20. I felt that there was to much on her plate that she was trying to juggle. We became bf/gf at the end of nov. In that time span we have broken up and gotten back together at least five times. twice her and the other three i decided it wasn't going to work out. I always felt as if she was hiding this big secret from me. We worked together and that is how I met her. We dated for a while even tho ppl at work used to warn me about her before they knew we were dating. Every time we broke up I went back to her except one time when she begged me to take her back. She felt as if people at work were talking about her to me at work. I would always tell her that they weren't talking about her because once i made it known that we were together everyone stopped. She would always say that she loves me but I never truly felt it. For example i met her father once and it was for a quick two mins. She told me that she lived in her own one bedroom apartment, but when i would go pick her up i was never able to go upstairs. While i was with her i have only been in her apartment three times. Once on christmas and once before that. Her excuse was her dad lived with her and she didnt want problems to occur between me her and her dad. I always thought it was fishy because she told me she paid for everything so if that was the case why would your dads opinion matter. I tried not to question it much because i figured it was her dad so i would leave it alone, but it kept bothering me how she could pay for all this on the amount of money i know we make. I also didnt want to get in the way of her and her dad relationship because she didnt have her mom in her life since she was 8. Her mom lives in another country while she lives in the states. She also has lupus which i felt bad for her about but at the same time i have a chronic disease as well and never use it as an excuse for anything. She has been trying to get her mom into the states and she says she can only do that with the help of her dad and that is why she has to tolerate him. She has two step sisters which I could not meet because she said every time her bf meet her sisters they end up breaking up. We have a mutual friend at work. Everytime we would break up she would go and tell him and somehow we would end up back together. Our last breakup was bad. That i was making a big mistake. After a week of the NC silent treatment she kept texting me and trying to talk to me at work. I finally decided to talk to her three weeks into the NC silent treatment. We had a long talk and i asked her a few questions and told her how i felt. She came to the conclusion that it was partly our mutual friend fault for this relationship not working out. A couple of days after that talk i find out she is going away on vac to see her mom. I was really happy for her, but couldnt understand y she wouldnt tell me that. When i asked her she said that it didnt matter i wasnt there for her. The day she is leaving is the day she tells me that she was going. I ask her to come and see before she leaves and she makes this big deal about it. I tell her that if she still cares about us she will find a way to come and see me. She comes to my house (for the first time on her own by the way) and we talk for 1 min. She askes me to give her some space to figure things out in her life. When she gets on the plane she calls me saying that she will add me on fb when she gets there. When she gets there she tries to add me but i felt it would be better to just message each other without being fb friends. Before she goes to see her mom she tells me to keep my distance from our mutual friend that he is trying to manipulate me. While she is over there i do not contact her once but she keeps messaging me. Finally i just decided i would ask my mutual friend what is going on. He tells me that her father is not the one living with her it is another person who we work with. that works in a different department. He tells me that they used to have sex but ever since me and her became bf/gf that he just lives at the place (that is what she told him). I find that hard to believe. He also tells me that she went on a business date with a client, but that it was just to get exposure into that field. Right after he tells me this she calls me and i confront her about this. She gets mad at me for asking our mutual friend and not talking to her. I say to her, i have given plenty of opportunities to be honest with. She says i was wrong in this relationship and that she regrets nothing. that she did what she had to do. She says would u have been able to help me pay for this apartment in your current situation. the thing to me is even if i could u never asked me nor told me someone was living with u. She told me her dad was staying with her. she keeps yelling and saying that she doesn't regret it that i will regret it. She hangs up on me when i start to talk. She tries calling me back twice and tries to skype me but i dont answer. i blocked her on fb as well. She calls our mutual friend right after and starts crying about how this is not what she wanted to happen. That this isn't the way she wanted things to work out. He calls me right back to tell me this. She came back to work on two weeks ago and she was fired because of something she did. I havent seen her since the day she left to see her mom. I havent talked to her since our fight which was on March 1. I still love her a lot as mad as i was. She did seem like she cared by coming with me to my doctor appointments and helping me when i was strap for cash. By calling me every morning and night atleast for the first month. I dont know what she is going through right now or if she is even thinking about me. I dont know if she will ever contact me. My friends and family feel that since she did the wrong that she should contact me n not the other way around, but i feel like she will not do that. I dont know if i should contact her or what? I don't know if she was using me or if she really loved me as she would say? I confused as how I should handle this or if I should just move on because that lie was big lie in my eye. She said during our fight she never cheated on my but she did do one thing in particular that was wrong. She said that is was keeping things to herself. I find it hard to believe that u arent cheating when u live in a one bedroom apartment with someone u used to have sex with a lot. Especially since we werent having sex much if ever. Will she be contact me ever or is it officially over? And if it is not officially should i take her back because idk if things will change.
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