lcug88 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Ok so, me and my ex broke up about a month ago. We were together for 3 years, spoke of marriage and buying a house together numerous times. I found out 2 weeks ago that he was talking to another girl and asked him why? N what his intentions were, he said he was talking to her because he was lonely. In saying that he was a very needy bf and constantly needed to feel loved and wanted by me. I met up with him a couple of days ago because my family had gotten involved (called him and pretty much abused the poor kid telling him to forget about me) without me knowing, I felt terrible because in the end he hasn't done anything wrong but broken up with me. And we spoke for a good couple of hours, I asked if we could give it another go and he said "not now" Over the month he has told me "I'm not easily replaced, he still has feelings, I could tempt him with a date, he still cares" all those things.... The next day I kept my distance didn't message or call n he msgd me about something stupid, the following morning I woke up to see another message he had sent the night before saying he has wanted to call or msg but didn't know if he should of, and wanted to make sure everything was ok at home... Yesterday 3 days after we met up we were messaging back and forth all day... After messaging him a few times he wrote a message saying "this is the person I feel for" because I seemed happier.... One of the last msgd that I sent him was asking if he was happy we broke up, n he replied a simple 'no' I asked what he meant by no..... And got nothing back... What does all this mean, I'm feeling like his just taking me for a ride.... But I miss him so much Any advice would be great!!!
Quest4_TheLost Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 He wants his cake and eat it to. He is most likely getting connected to this new girl. But he misses the memory of you. Once he gets connected you probably won't hear from him anymore. Its simple, there is no need to overthink anything this guy is saying to you. If he is not trying to get back together he doesn't want to be with you. No one here can tell you if that will ever change, despite any signs or breadcrumbs he leaves for you. If he were trying to get back together he would say "I want to get back together", then put in the necessary effort to move forward in a positive direction with you. Anything less isn't worth your time.
ThatJustHappened Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 No means no. He's not happy you broke up. But he's not getting back together with you..so he's not unhappy either. Actions speak louder than words. His words are muddled and obnoxiously confusing..but his actions say that he does not want you back. NC and move on..he's just going to keep messing with you until you stop letting him. I'm sorry you're hurting..hugs!
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