Maceltics21 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I'll try to keep it to the point but I've known this girl for over a year. I liked her from the start but she had a bf who was a dick to her so i knew it wouldn't last. Over the months we slowly become closer. I gave her compliments every so often and broke the touch barrier many times and she didn't pull away. I paid every time we went out to eat. I was conscious not to be put in the friend-zone so I wasn't her therapist when it came to her problems. She ends up breaking up with her bf. she always tells me she has fun with me and we've had some deep conversations about life so I know there's a emotion connection. One night after we went out with a group of friends and had a really great time i through the question out. I said do you ever see us being more than friends? She got really nervous and said just friends. I was stunned. Even other people said she would bring me up in conversation and smile and talk about the time she's was spending with me. They thought she was into me and they were girls. Tips on what to do? Not to be shallow but I and a lot of other people consider me to be a good looking guy so i don't think it's looks.
chex Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 You asked too soon. Honestly a relationship in real life with this sort of situation(known each other a long time, getting closer gradually) .. the dates happen before you're officially together. Becoming official is more of a process and it just happens rather than you asking about it. You seem clingy and insecure asking about it.
Author Maceltics21 Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 You asked too soon. Honestly a relationship in real life with this sort of situation(known each other a long time, getting closer gradually) .. the dates happen before you're officially together. Becoming official is more of a process and it just happens rather than you asking about it. You seem clingy and insecure asking about it. Advice on what to do? The texting is usually 50/50 between us. When she's at school either she texts me once every 3-7 days or vice versa. I don't think I come off as clingy but I could be wrong.
ConfusedNLife Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I don't think that its because you've become clingy at all. What I do suggest is that you ignore the fact that she said just friends deep down, but remain her friend on the surface. As sad as it is, people want what they can't have. I think perhaps you need to play a mind game. Tell her that you understand and accept the fact that she just wants to be friends. Tell her its Probably best anyways so you two don't ruin what you have. Give it awhile to let that sit in her head... a few weeks later tell her about how this girl was flirting with you (lie if you have to) ask her for advice on how to approach this girl. Again lie if you need to...or actively go find a girl. When she sees your with someone else one of two things will happen. she won't like it, and try to steal you away through spending more time with her etc....you'll notice... thus developing your relationship which is what you wanted to begin with. Or she will be happy for you genuinely....and then well, sorry, she really doesnt want to date you and you better just honestly move on. Make sure you read between the lines though. she might act like she is happy for you either way....so pay attention for the jealousy signs. Any girl who gets jealous over what or who your doing on the side.....likes you.
Recommended Posts