boblet Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 So, it's been roughly 7 months since my BU.. ex left, ex ex came back, ex saw me with another guy during this time lol as I mentioned in earlier posts... I feel as though I'm finally moving on. I don't think I'm 100% over my ex, but the pain definitely isn't as bad as it was a few months ago.. I remember not being able to get out of bed because of how heavy I felt, crying all the time etc. Slowly he is becoming a memory, I think less and less about times we had and I'm not as consumed by anger as I was a little while ago. Dating someone else, if anything, opened up my eyes to what else was out there, and one day when I'm ready I believe I will love someone else again. Day by day, month by month I'm letting go... it's just a matter of time now... what a journey this has been. It does make me sad though, that I'm probably becoming a distant memory to him, and it does hurt my pride that he hasn't tried to get in contact with me or get my attention.. I hope this goes away but I really hope that any of you going through the same thing know that the pain does fade, just be patient with yourself.... I hope that everyone who was at the same position as me around my BU is progressing along in like fashion, would love to hear feedback 2
cavalier99 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 hey boblet. Great to hear your doing well. Im also moving foward. things are soooo much better than a few moths ago. i still thing of things but it doesnt have the same weight as before. it is just a matter of time and being happy where we are right now. Ive sorta accepted i dont know when ill be 100 percent indifferent and that is ok. take care. Cav 1
LMNO Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Glad to hear it gets easier, and you guys are progressively moving forward! Congrats 2
The Tallest One Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Hi!, today marks five weeks post bu and it still hurts a lot! Feel lost and hurt and very mistreated buy a girl who never knew what she wanted and was "confused"! Was dragged along for eighteen months full of many ups and downs! Just so badly want to move on and get her out of my head and feel whole again! I have lost my joy in life and I hate that! Just want to love me for me and feel good about life again!
Author boblet Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 Hey Cav, great to hear from you I'm glad you are moving along too! Just a matter of time till 100% healed. What % healed do you think you're at? Wow I crashed this week a few days after I posted this lol I hadn't been feeling that bad about him but I had a moment when I realized I was avoiding grieving and I was back on that rollercoaster. Just need to get it all out of my system. I do realize though, that once I'm really upset about something, my brain automatically thinks of my ex also, so I'm not sure if I'm actually grieving or linking negative emotions to my ex lol food for thought! I know you were holding off on dating, did you start seeing anyone? Tallest One, I hope you've initiated NC, I think where you're at is probably the most difficult period because that's the time emotions run high and you're at the most vulnerable position.... unfortunately what you're going through is why many of us came to LS in the first place... it's horrible I know, but get to NC, hide old pictures, delete her number, text messages.... take it day by day and grieve when you have to, and post here whenever you have urges to contact her, feel down etc. because that has really helped me move along... soon u will have better days
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