targaryen Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 So, I've been on NC for 8 weeks and I thought it was time to go out and hook up, just like I read I should do. I don't want another four year relationship with a girl I'll fall in love, but I do want fun and physical intimacy, which I really miss. So, I got lucky and got a girl's number at an art exhibition opening event. We spent a couple of days talking over facebook and then I asked her out. She said yes, but we didn't set a specific date because we were both booked for this weekend. Now I got back in touch with her again and she's not replying to my messages. Would anyone here be able to let me know what's going on? Why would a girl accept a date and then simply ignore me? from the #beenoutofthedatingworldforyears department Thanks!
Object_a Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Sounds like she moved on, and you should too. It sucks, I know. I had the exact same thing happen to me a couple of weeks ago. Just remember it's probably not your fault. If she is actively dating or looking for dates she probably just got bored of waiting.
Author targaryen Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 wow, two days isn't all that much time to wait. I think maybe I contacted her too often/appeared too eager Or maybe she just felt guilty and accepted the date and never inteded to follow up
CryForNoOne Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 How many unreplied messages? More than 2 then move on. Always make firm plans if you can. Otherwise this happens a lot...
creighton0123 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 How many unreplied messages? More than 2 then move on. Always make firm plans if you can. Otherwise this happens a lot... This. You sound like you're both adults. "Our weekends are both booked" is a crappy reason to not make plans. In the future, set the plans in stone. Have a few favorite spots you like to frequent and avoid casual language like "We should get together soon". Something like: "I want to take you to this place in <this location>. What night works for you?" Then, at the end of that date, ask very directly whether or not she would like another one. If yes, plan it then and there OR set a time to call to make the plans. "Okay. I will call you on *today + two or three days* to make plans.
Author targaryen Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 i contacted her 4 times on facebook and sent her a text. no answer. the last thing she had said was 'sure let's meet up' but then she went offline because she was cooking. i really didn't have time to plan on the day I asked her but I did shift my weekend plans and text her about going to place X on Saurday evening. Well I guess it's time to look elsewhere. It's very disappointing though. I mean I don't understand how someone could accept a date and then just ignore messages 2 days later.
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