hla76 Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 Here is my situation.My boyfriend broke up with me over a month ago and i just started working again.A new guy just started working where I work.I am interested in him and I think I he is interested in me to.I want to ask him if he would like to go out one night,but I am a little nerves.The question I have is.Do you think it is too early for me to start dating again?My boyfriend did leave me for another girl.After we were together for 3 years and we were engaged.any advice will be greatley apreciated right now.I just want to know what to do and if i should start dating again.I want to but I dont know if I am ready.
Merin Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 The only person who can really say IF you're ready to try dating again is you. Some people think it is better to wait until you've had enough time to heal and get over what happened, however some other people think it is better to get out there and met someone else because it can be theraputic. My opinion is this...... everyone deals with things in thier own way and while it may take some people a year or more to get past something like that, it may only take someone else a month or 6 months whatever the case may be. Just be careful of rebounding...... this guy that you've met doesn't have to be Mr. Right you know? I think it is fine and maybe would be theraputic for you to get out and have some fun! AND I don't think there would be anything wrong with asking him to go see a movie or out to lunch or something with you..... because not only does he need not be Mr. Right, shoot he doesn't even need to be Mr. Right Now, he may just turn out to be a really awesome friend who can help you start to feel better about you!
Barby Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 I agree that only YOU can figure out when you're ready to date again. I personally don't think that it's too early to begin casually dating someone else. If you like him ask him out but whatever you do, don't lead him on (like if you're not ready for anything more than a casual date then you should let him know that). Anyway I think it's completely up to you what feels right.
Author hla76 Posted September 18, 2004 Author Posted September 18, 2004 Well me and that guy went out last weekend with a few other people.I had a blast.He said he just wants to be friends for now and see where things go.That is cool with me though because you can never have too many friends.Plus if things dont work out like I want than we can always be friends countless.But maybe one day we can be a couple.I am gonna take my time though and I am not gonna prssure him because I do not want to push him away.I think that is the best thing to do.I want to keep him close to me.He is a really nice guy and all.He has a really good heart.He will let me know when the time is right for him.When of if he is ready to have a girlfriend he will let me know and if I am the one he wants to be with he will let me know.i apperiate all the advice .
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