my brother will always be in love with this married skank

[emva07]

My brother has been seeing this married skank who has done nothing but play with him and take his money since he was around 23. He has dated other women but it has never been for longer than 10 months. This skank has always exhausted his relationships because she won't stop txting him about how much she wants him back, how she loves him and all until the girl he's with leaves.

 

Now for the past three years (he was 28) he was with a girl, Sarah, I think he actually loved her. He cut the married skank out of his life, even though from time to time she'd still send hate txts but my sister-in-law (they weren't married) was understanding in that it was just some dirty ho who wanted to see him broken up yet again. A few times they broke up and he'd go running back to this married ho. And she had no shame in asking for money as soon as they would start talking again.

 

Eventually Sarah and my brother broke up because she found in the computer history one day that he looked her name up. He claimed he did it out of curiosity since he had gone about a year and a half without talking but Sarah was no fool she knew that had he found her they would've hooked up again and her life would never be happy. My brother begged Sarah for months to get back with her but she just didn't want to, eventually blocked his phone (even though we still talk)

 

Now my question is....is my brother in love with his married skank who just takes all his money , has given him false hope of leaving her husband but never does. or did he actually love Sarah. I've tried to reason with her that my brother loves her but she insists it's not so and she's done with this.

 

Can someone tell me, i don't want to believe my brother is in love with his ho who he has no future with. His friends don't even know about her! They all loved Sarah, he even took her to our country to meet our parents and all. We all thought she was the one. He is now respecting her wishes of keeping distance and hasn't tried to contact her since she blocked him. Now he will go back to yet again , look for her and go back to that horrible lifestyle. He's 32 now! I don't want that for him!

 

thanks.

Edited March 21, 2013 by emva07

[chrisftw]

reminds me of couples who are on and off again for years.

 

a friend of mine. she was on and off again with her boyfriend for 8 long years.

 

the only year that was actually good was the first one. but EVERY TIME she would date some new guy and things would go well. her ex would send her a txt and BOOM. new guy gets played. ex comes back into the picture they have sex a few times and 4 months later they break up over the same stuff they broke up before the last 5 times.

 

at a certain age. unfortunately you can't really change who you are. you can mask it for a time. even pretend that's not who you are. but really you can't change it.

 

and unfortunately your brother will not come un glued unless he gets what he wants, finds a girl that can match him on the level that woman can. or that woman tells him to take a long walk off a short pier.

 

one way or the other though. your brother is stuck in a hole he dug in his own psyche that only he can pull himself out of.

[applej4]

emva07, your brother is an adult - 32 yrs old. Whether or not you believe he is in love with the woman is irrelevant. Okay, he's your brother and you care about him, but you cannot run his life and involve yourself in his relationships. It's not your business. He will have to make his own mistakes and be responsible for his own actions. Focus on your own life and your own relationships.