SharkTooth Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 I've been around here a while, have had the unfortunate experience with a few BU's, and I know the do's and don'ts. But I have a twist I was hoping someone could help me with. My ex and I had a no drama break up, sort of expected I guess because of a huge change in my life with my son coming to live with us. Anyway, my ex raised herself since she was 13 years old. The worst childhood you could imagine and does not even acknowledge her parents, nor has she seen or talked to them in 25 years. She has one sister and that's about the extent of her family besides her kids. She has known her best friend for 5 years and if you asked me, she doesn't know the meaning of a best friend. She has like no support group and really is on her own which she is very good at. She's successful and has all the necessity's/luxury's a woman and her kids need, but her friends are few and far between and not really good friends at that. So I struggle thinking she needs me as a friend, a true friend because hell, she doesn't have one. Under normal BU circumstances, I would opt out of the friendship request but she really needs to have a great friend. It's been over 5 weeks of NC (once for work reasons) and she sort of understood why I had to decline her friendship request, saying maybe when summer comes around we could try the friend thing. She has never been friends with any of her ex's and never wanted to be. I guess I'm leaning towards helping her as a friend one day because that's just the way I'm built. Any thoughts?
TaraMaiden Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 The circumstances of her life are not for you to 'fix'. If she wants friendship further down the line, let her approach you. But in your shoes, I'd leave well alone. This break up carries precisely the same conditions as any other break up. Friendship - where feelings exist - isn't possible.
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