TheDovic Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Hey guys, So basically was dumped 20 months ago and still think about her all the time, despite the fact she is in another long term relationship! (I think) She was really keen to keep contact, but when I cut it last year she flipped out and totally hates me now. I had to do it for my own sanity! Anywho, I've dated lots of different girls since then (one for four months, one for 6). I have no problem at all getting girls, but still think about my ex all the time which has led me to dumping any girl I've been with. I feel ok most of the time, but occasionally get a spark of anxiety. However I think about my ex 24/7 and no matter what I have done this has not changed. Has anyone else had a similar experience of still being hung up on someone after this length of time? We were together for four years, engaged and bought a house together Cheers for any comments
Author TheDovic Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 Actually just answered my own question responding to someone else. I know I will be ok one day. Just nice to get some reassurance it's normal to still miss someone after all this time!
wintersun Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Hi there, My last relation of 7 years ended with her cheating me with a 30 years older guy. Damn, even older than her father. But the thing is, after we broke up, I spent almost 3 years thinking about her every single day. It was 3 miserable years. Somewhere in the 4th year, I was over it and finally could have a "life". And after 4 years, without a single contact with any other women, I met the most wonderful person in the world for me. So... it all gets better in the the end. Cheers mate 1
Mack05 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Losing someone you were engaged to and spent 6 years with is very hard to cope with. It takes time and lots of it. When you meets girls straight after you tend to compare them to your ex and not in a good way. It's almost like you are looking for a replacement. It's always best to stay on your own and fill the emotional gaps inside in a healthy way. Once you have learnt to be happy by yourself, you will know when you are ready to meet someone new. Meeting someone when you are not ready, is not fair to you and its certainly not fair to her.. 1
Author TheDovic Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 @wintersun thanks so much for the comment, it was exactly what I needed to hear! I like anyone in pain want it to go away right now, but I'm a realist so accept it is here. However it is nice to know other people have walked the same path as I am and have come out the other end. Hope all is well with you @Mack05 really appreciate your wise words. I have purposefully stopped dating other girls, because I know it's not fair to anyone involved. For a long time I thought I could block out my emotions by filling my time with other people, but whilst they were covered up they did not go away and eventually came out all at once. Therefore I am going to stop chasing girls and am going to confront my feelings once and for all... in a healthy way of course lol. PS, would you be thee Mack who was on here around August - December 2011? If so hope things are going well for you buddy. From what I can remember you're a really good guy
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