grace777 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Well, we've been talking online (met on match) since november. it started sporadic, then moved into every couple of weeks, and lately we've been talking every few days. She lives out of state, but is moving to my state in June. I should mention that I just got out of a 3.5 year relationship in October. It plays a role in how insecure I am in this email, I believe. Oh and also, I'm a lesbian - not that that matters much, but still. She's everything I want...super smart, very driven, beautiful, witty, a smart ass, similar taste in music, artistic, etc. And she seems to think the same of me. Last month she flew out here for a day to set up her place and wanted to meet up, but I was out of town and couldn't. Our conversations have been getting deeper and deeper, and more and more flirty, which I love. Anyways, we recently began discussing quantum theory (very deep). and during that same conversation, we flirted pretty hard. then a day or two later, I tried to change my screen name (because I thought it was lame and just wanted to adjust it). Then my entire match profile was invisible! Sucks!!! Tech support contacted me - I didn't even know there was a problem - and told me they were fixing it, but I could logon, but essentially couldn't interact at all - no sending or receiving emails. In the meantime, they told me a round about way to email her. So i did. That meant that I had emailed her twice in a row, after super strong flirting and SUPER deep conversation, and then again to let her know about my mixup with tech support and match. I didn't know if she'd even get it, but now my match email is fixed and i can see that she did get it, and she did read it. And did not respond. I'm afraid that makes me look as anxious as i feel (I'm trying to mask this sh**!) I haven't heard from her in five days, which is way longer than normal. Am I trippin? Or did I blow it by emailing twice in a row after the intense & deep email? I know I sound like a Jr. Higher, but I just don't want to blow it with this girl. She's amazing and I can't wait to see her. I just do not want to screw this up. Feedback would be amazing.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Been contacting for 5 months and you can't just pick up the phone and talk to her? Something smells catfishy (I'll be here all week, try the Beef Wellington).
Author grace777 Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Hmmm - not sure what to say to that. But yes, I agree we should be talking on the phone by now...but honestly, we weren't connecting like this the whole time. It started up as fun and sporadic..a way to keep my mind off my ex, really. But somewhere around the end of Feb, it really took off.
creighton0123 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Yeah. Stop with the pen pal thing unless you want a pen pal.... You want a romantic relationship, so treat it like one. Talk. Vocally. And until June, see if you can step it up a notch and get her on video chat.
Author grace777 Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Alright good advice. I'm gonna wait and see if she replies this weekend. If not, I'll email her again next week. That's not too psycho or pushy, is it? Once we email again, I'll suggest we talk on the phone. It's weird that it's been almost a week since I've heard from her, but then again, I was having technical difficulties.
Author grace777 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 Update - she got back to me. She was sick (I feel silly now). She gave me her personal email and wants to IM and talk on the phone next week. Yay!
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