ChiaT Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Hey! This is the second date of my life, first date with this lady. She is willing to come to my place; we are 100 km apart. We never met in-person before, only talked online; so I feel good about it and trusted She knows I like to cook, and told me that she rarely cooked with people, so for our date we are going to cook + eat together at my place and then movie after. I want to know how ladies here feel about sharing costs. I am thinking first take her with me to shop for ingredients and share the costs at the supermarket; well, maybe at least some of it if not 50-50. I really do want to treat her since she is making the trip coming to me, but I am still a student with 2 jobs x_x...
Robman9911 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Hey! This is the second date of my life, first date with this lady. She is willing to come to my place; we are 100 km apart. We never met in-person before, only talked online; so I feel good about it and trusted She knows I like to cook, and told me that she rarely cooked with people, so for our date we are going to cook + eat together at my place and then movie after. I want to know how ladies here feel about sharing costs. I am thinking first take her with me to shop for ingredients and share the costs at the supermarket; well, maybe at least some of it if not 50-50. I really do want to treat her since she is making the trip coming to me, but I am still a student with 2 jobs x_x... Hey dude, if she is traveling to your place from 100 km away. You better provide all and I mean all the costs when she gets there. If you lived in same city that would be different. 7
CarrieT Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 What Robman said. You got a girl you've never met before to come 100km to your place??? Pull out the stops and foot the cost of the date. ALL OF IT. I know you are a student and there are ways to do things well on a budget. Start googling recipes now. It doesn't have to be lobster and filet mignon, but put some effort into it and you'll be fine. 1
CryForNoOne Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Ditto. Never have I heard of splitting cost of groceries in the early dating stage... 1
MsSmurf Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 There is a really great show on the Food Network called Ten Dollar Dinners with Melissa D'Arabian. I've watched it several times and she makes stuff that's healthy, easy to make, and seems fancy, but definitely stays in that $10 budget. I think they replay some of the episodes on their website too. 1
Author ChiaT Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 Oh!! Thank you all. How unromantic of me to think of sharing costs..HAHA.. Well then! I try to arrange my budget to make it work; it is almost pay-day too. Do you guys be stingy in normal days to save up money for those special days with the ladies?
Author ChiaT Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 What Robman said. You got a girl you've never met before to come 100km to your place??? Pull out the stops and foot the cost of the date. ALL OF IT. Well~she looks like an adorable lady in the photos she gave me; she also asked for my pictures and phone number. We also have been texting a lot, and I like our conversations. Plus she is a professional and has a real job...shouldn't have any problem x_x
Els Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Are you kidding??? She's travelling 100km to your place and you're going to bring her to... shop for ingredients for your meal and split costs?!?!?!?!??!! I don't even see how ingredients for a meal can be a big issue. Unlike restaurants where you typically get what you pay for, with cooking your skills and effort are going to make more difference than the cost. I made us a special dinner for Christmas - lamb rump, homemade mint sauce, jacket potato, dessert, and it cost me like $20 for all the ingredients. I'm a student, too, so I don't see how a student can't afford $20. Don't even BRING her to shop for ingredients. Just surprise her with a nice dinner off the bat. 3
Author ChiaT Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 Oh OK! I am sorry. I will research on the recipes; I can do it. 2
musemaj11 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 This girl must not be the most attractive because if she were at least a decent looking girl, she would expect the guy to be the one driving 100km to see her and wine and dine her also.
Andy_K Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Don't be too harsh on the guy. If he's got a girl to drive 100km to see him for a first date he must be doing something right
Author ChiaT Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 This girl must not be the most attractive because if she were at least a decent looking girl, she would expect the guy to be the one driving 100km to see her and wine and dine her also. Alright then...your signature must have make you sooo good looking and smart.
musemaj11 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Alright then...your signature must have make you sooo good looking and smart. Well thats the truth man. Extreme measures are taken by people in extreme situations. A man or a woman with plenty of options next door, won't be going after an option 100km away instead.
sabre80 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 I concur with all the posters saying you pay for everything and do not take her shopping with you. She is not only paying for fuel but her time traveling. Make her feel appreciated that she traveled not sorry for it. Google some pasta bolognese recopies. It is essentially fancy spaghetti. Some buttered green beans with chopped bacon. Garlic bread and a caeser salad (hint get a caeser kit from the grocery store). It is my go to low cost meal when I am strapped for cash but it still wows the ladies every time.
clia Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 I'm can't think of any scenario where I would drive 100 km to have a first date with a guy I met online at his house. Nope, can't think of any. This doesn't sound like the safest scenario to me. Be careful, OP. I hope she doesn't show up with a couple of big dudes who want to rob you. Why did you decide not to meet her in a public place? 2
StanMusial Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 First of all, what is up with all you student aged people doing OLD and meeting strangers on the internet?? Do you not have any PYTs on your campus? Dang! Secondly, as the man I always expect to pay. I make about 4-5 times what my gf makes so I would feel pretty scuzzy if I asked her for money. She does chip in on stuff sometimes though and I appreciate the gesture and its a good indicator of her contribution in a partnership. At the early stage you're at though you should foot the bill.
CryForNoOne Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 I'm can't think of any scenario where I would drive 100 km to have a first date with a guy I met online at his house. Nope, can't think of any. This doesn't sound like the safest scenario to me. Be careful, OP. I hope she doesn't show up with a couple of big dudes who want to rob you. Why did you decide not to meet her in a public place? Really good point. Whose idea was it? If it was hers or she steered to convo that way, it's a huge red flag.
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