What do I do? We broke up 6 months ago after 10 years of relationship

[wowWTF619]

Okay,

 

Me and my ex broke up like 6 months ago for 10 years of going out and for the first 3 months, we were talking as "friends", but it brought up my hopes to the point where I thought we might be getting back together.

 

I did beg for the first week then after those first 3 months, i couldn't take it anymore and basically told her to "**** off" just cuz talking as friends wasn't doing it for me.

 

Now, I'm getting the urges to talk to her, but after I told her to **** off, I believe I ruined my chances of reconciliation. I still love her, I really do, and I can accept that we won't be getting back together after 10 years of nothing. She did tell me she didn't wanna get back together and that it's hard for her to get those feelings back if she tried. I don't know though, for some reason I somewhat regret telling her to **** off because I was only mad to say that. I sort've meant what I said, but IDK what to do. I just want to text her and see what she's up to and what not.

 

It hurts me to see that we aren't talking after 10 years of going out. -_- This feelings I'm getting isn't cool. So my question is, should I text her or **** it, just leave it since everything has been said and done?

 

It's been 2 months since we talked.

Edited March 21, 2013 by wowWTF619

[cavalier99]

Stay NC. Im almost 6 months out or a 8 year RS. There is no going back. You need to heal.

 

Believe me she understands..not that it matters. Dont worry about telling her to f*off. I did the same and still got nice email 2 month into NC. Not that it means much. Cav

[creighton0123]

I am of the opinion, and many may share this with me, that you cannot be friends with someone you were so intimate with for quite some time. I'm not talking about six months, but multiple years down the road - and only then if you coincidentally come in contact.

 

Move on and maintain no contact. A friendship is going to be absolutely impossible until both of you do completely move on.

[h3braica]

i feel you. i've been in RS of 10 yrs, dumped me 5 mos after he proposed a marriage because of some issues in his life. (still thinkin' why it happened) i'm still hurting and wants to break NC many times but knowing he will ignore me after reaching out to him will added to the pain i'm feeling right now. it's really hard but it's the only way to heal.

 

be strong.

[TaraMaiden]

Echo, echo, echo......