dkk1234 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Due to my impulsive nature and quick temper, my ex finally had enough and said she needs space after our two-year relationship. I know this break is all my fault. I tend to say hurtful things when I am angry. For example, threatening to break-up with her multiple times and hurting her when I did not actually want a break. I know I need to grow up and fix this problem. We have argued over this multiple times already, and each time I promise to let my anger go for the moment. She forgave me more than once, and sadly I went on repeating the same mistake. As a result, I understand why she wanted a break. We never had a big break like this. It has been two weeks since we talked on the phone. I reflected and am trying really hard to be rational when I am frustrated. I really miss her. I texted her two nights ago asking if she still wants to talk and work things out in two weeks. She responded with "We will see." I don't understand what her comment means. Does her comment imply that we might have a possibility of talking again? If not, why not just be straightforward and tell me no so I can move on? Last night I texted her again saying that I miss her. I got not response. As a result, I felt insecure and asked her again if she still wants to work things out or move on. She messaged me back today saying "Stop texting those kind of message (I guess she meant the message asking her whether or not she wants me to move on). You are still doing the same thing. When I don't get the response you want you do that." I do not understand why she is trying to avoid this question. Does this mean that she still has feelings for me? I am trying really hard right now to change for her. I don't know what she wants. Should I remain hopeful and give her more space until she initiates contact again? Or should I just move on? Right now I feel like a little boy being strung along. I love her, and I just wish that she can give me a second chance to prove to her that I am able to change for the better.
NapoleonNotSheep Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 If she loves you and wants to be with you then she will text you when she is not angry and starts missing you. So don't text her and wait so she texts. If she won't text you then she doesn't want to be with you or talk to you. I know it will be hard as I was also dependent on texting my gf all the time. I don't know about you but I got dependent on it because she was texting me all the time and I got used to it and I couldn't go without it after a while.
veggirl Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 People don't change in 2 weeks. You have had the same issue for 2 yrs there is no way you have fixed it in 2 weeks. Stop contacting this girl, and honestly even in 2 weeks you shouldn't be the one who asks to get together, wait and see if she wants to. Breaks typically = break up and no I didn't read anything in her messages that implied she wants to try again. She is probably feeling relieved she doesn't have to deal with the drama anymore and your texts just bring the drama BACK and show you really haven't changed at all. You are smothering her. You guys agreed, apparently, to talk in one month. Therefore you shouldn't have been texting her only 2 weeks in.
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