tambov Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 My ex and I are attempting to be friends. I fell for her big time however it was never going to work. I am more or less reconciled to this fact now. We've been doing well at this until last night when she asked me to meet her for a drink whilst neglecting to tell me her new guy was going to be there as well. I knew he existed as I am good friends with her sister however we both thought they had split up. It was her lack of empathy and a series of crappy lies and half-truths that got to me. I know the internet is firmly NC but I am reasonably new in this country and that would cut out more friends and experiences than I am prepared to loose. This breakup, like many isn't as black and white so I am interested if others had to lay down some ground rules with their exes before moving forwards. Thanks!
geegirl Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 (edited) This is why you don't play with the "friends' card after you break-up. Your ex is not your friend. If she was your friend, she would not have beswowed upon you a "lack of empathy and a series of crappy lies and half-truths." It's better to have no friends, than friends that do all of the above. This is your opportunity to go out and meet other people and forge better and healthier friendships. Not one with an ex. I'm a foreigner to this country as well so that excuse that you are new and alone, does not cut it because it's just your excuse to keep crappy people in your life. Edited March 20, 2013 by geegirl 3
Chi townD Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Yep! seeing her with someone else hurt like hell didn't it? NC is the best way to heal and move on. And no one says that you CAN'T be friends with her in the future. Just not while you still have romantic feelings for her. Once you can look at her and feel nothing but indifference, then it's okay to be friends if you want. But, not a second before. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Bad move... Never works, imo. And how stupid is she to not let you know up front that the guy would be there...friggin heartless(and classless) people. TFOY
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