curlygirl40 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 This is interesting to me, not the first time it's happened. I'm talking to a new guy who contacted me on eharmony. I have MANY pictures of myself on that site. Full body, head shots, pics with friends, pics from road races, etc. We went through the usual contact method that eharmony has, and then started e-mail and then texting. This morning he texts and we start talking about our 'type' and he gives me a description of his 'type' when it comes to what he likes in girls, and I'm not it. I haven't said anything about it because I know that people will deviate from their 'type' when other things fall into place. Attraction, chemistry, etc. and also because I don't want to come across as being insecure about my appearance (I'm not). Would you say something or figure they have seen the pictures and it's up to them to meet you in person and see for themselves? And, btw, he's exactly my 'type'. lol
Charlie Harper Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Type goes outawindow when chemistry and understanding come to the mix. In my case Blondes are not my type but I am a magnet for blondes, and I have discovered that Type is not very important when you factor more basic traits like, loyalty, honesty, humor, be a team maker, funny, INTELlIGENT. People who think Type, is number one thing to look for, is usually shallow. 1
Babolat Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Like Harper, blondes are no tmy type yet my 3 LTRs have been with blondes! I guess we need to know more regarding the "type" difference you think exists. And, at the end of the day, it's a 1 hour meet and greet, what do you have to lose, right?
Author curlygirl40 Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 Oh definitely, nothing to lose. I think a lot of people think/know they have a type but will deviate from that type when other things fall into place for them. I know I have. So I'm not going to say anything to him, we'll see how it works out. He said he likes girls who are petite. I'm average I would say (size 8) and curvy in the good way. He's 6'3" and works out a lot. Maybe to him I will be petite. lol I'm not that concerned was just curious if anyone else would feel the need to say something.
JuneJulySeptember Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 I'm nobody's type. Certain women like me because they don't care that much about looks or because they don't really have a type. The only group that I might be a 'type' of is certain gay men. But I'm not gay.
whirl3daway Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 OP, it's interesting that you say this. I am also a size 8, 5'6 and about 155lbs. I'm very average sized, with a bit of belly. My ex-fiance (totally broken inside, child porn watcher) spent 3 years telling me that I'm not his type... that I'm too big, I'm too tall, I'm too strong, that if I only lost some weight he would love to have sex with me... it really did a number on me. Now whenever someone shows interest in me, I have to fight off the urge to tell them that I'm "not as petite as they probably want". Have you had an experience with a ****ty ex? What you said just resonated with me in a way, I suppose.
Author curlygirl40 Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 OP, it's interesting that you say this. I am also a size 8, 5'6 and about 155lbs. I'm very average sized, with a bit of belly. My ex-fiance (totally broken inside, child porn watcher) spent 3 years telling me that I'm not his type... that I'm too big, I'm too tall, I'm too strong, that if I only lost some weight he would love to have sex with me... it really did a number on me. Now whenever someone shows interest in me, I have to fight off the urge to tell them that I'm "not as petite as they probably want". Have you had an experience with a ****ty ex? What you said just resonated with me in a way, I suppose. I haven't had any experience with an ex like that. But I know that some guys are attracted to curvy and some are not. If a guy really likes a small, petite woman, I'm not that girl and I know that. I'm athletic, I run, I'm fit and healthy. But I'm a G cup and have the hips to match. Most guys love it. I'm going to contradict myself and say that overall I'm VERY happy with my body, however if a guy tells me that he's attracted to slender, petite, etc., I know that's not me and then in the back of my mind I do think that he's not going to be attracted to me. But most of the time I'm wrong. I'm so glad this guy is your ex!! I'm sorry he did such a number on your self esteem!!
todreaminblue Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 This is interesting to me, not the first time it's happened. I'm talking to a new guy who contacted me on eharmony. I have MANY pictures of myself on that site. Full body, head shots, pics with friends, pics from road races, etc. We went through the usual contact method that eharmony has, and then started e-mail and then texting. This morning he texts and we start talking about our 'type' and he gives me a description of his 'type' when it comes to what he likes in girls, and I'm not it. I haven't said anything about it because I know that people will deviate from their 'type' when other things fall into place. Attraction, chemistry, etc. and also because I don't want to come across as being insecure about my appearance (I'm not). Would you say something or figure they have seen the pictures and it's up to them to meet you in person and see for themselves? And, btw, he's exactly my 'type'. lol i dont have a "type"...there are things i love about men and i seek them out......but how i have been attracted to in the past has been so different......and some of the traits i love they have known i love so they be that ....for a while until the novelty wears off..or my loyalty never give up type of gal kicks in.........does that sound jaded ...probably.....but its true....any man can fit your "type" if they know enough about you....they know what you want to hear...do you find it curious he is exactly your type......yet......you are not his...an inconvenient truth maybe..deb
Author curlygirl40 Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 i dont have a "type"...there are things i love about men and i seek them out......but how i have been attracted to in the past has been so different......and some of the traits i love they have known i love so they be that ....for a while until the novelty wears off..or my loyalty never give up type of gal kicks in.........does that sound jaded ...probably.....but its true....any man can fit your "type" if they know enough about you....they know what you want to hear...do you find it curious he is exactly your type......yet......you are not his...an inconvenient truth maybe..deb I think I have a type but yet the two guys who I fell for since my divorce, they couldn't be more different if they tried. So I just think 'never say never'. This guy contacted me, and all of my pictures are honest and recent so we'll see. He is my type though in looks through his pictures. But in person you just never know! I know the type of guy that turns my head. But in reality I know what I'm looking for in a personality and that attracts me also.
mortensorchid Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 I can't imagine why someone would say something like "you're not my type" if they have never met you in the flesh before. You barely know this person, right? Physical appearances are one thing, but meeting that person in the flesh is another matter. They could be completely attractive but a horrible person or vice versa. It's been my experience online that way, at least. He could be attractive in his photo, but he could also be a complete and utter a*******, or a dud with his personality, or there could just be no chemistry at all. 1
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