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I agree entirely!

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This is becoming a real mindf**k.

I got a text saying she wanted to text me but didn't know what to say just because she can't not text me. I got a few texts in a few minutes asking not to be ignored and then as I was replying I got a call. She's in quite a state and she's saying she has nothing without me and can't be without me but she doesn't know how she feels. She then hung up apologising for contacting me. If I'm honest, I liked that she was realising that life without me at all isn't how she imagined but she also said she can't believing that it's hurting her more than me (because I wasn't crying at the time like her) However I quickly explained how I had only just managed to stop crying since breaking up with her five hours on and that when at college I had to go and hide behind a distant shed and cry.

 

I went on fb and saw she had set the relationship status as 'single' that stung. I phoned her, it's hard to have a conversation because she just doesn't know how she feels about anything anymore. But she suggested spending a day together in the easter holidays! I want this a lot but my reaction wasn't the best. 'yeah I would like to, I would really like to! But I don't know..' She asked me to hang up because she found the phone call upsetting.

Later on I asked if maybe we could try remaining friends (neither of us particularly have friends at college and it would be nice to get on.) She said she doesn't know if it would be enough for her and need time to think about it. I suggested starting from scratch. I also told her I was deactivating my facebook account for awhile. She didn't want me to and told me it would make her sad, so I told her should could text me if she had anything to say to me and I couldn't cope with it at the moment (to many photos.)

I am constantly crying and the thought of not been a part of her life or hers been a part of mine is killing me. I know she wants me in her life, she's just not sure how much. I'm going to step back for a bit.

 

Things look beautiful from afar, until you discover the reality is far more complicated, beyond your wildest imagination. Cut off from her. You are so young and you have a beautiful life ahead. It's hard to do this I know, but, lets face the reality.

 

Normally, if the girl feels something not ok, she'll withdraw and move on. But, she needs the emotional crutches before she gets her wings. If you bug her, she's pretty like to develop hatred, which becomes much easier for her to fly away.

 

Don't get dumped, you do it. There are plenty of red-flags from what you say.

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I got dumped..

 

It's been discussed in another thread in 'coping.'

 

She's just using me to feel less lonely when she needs someone but isn't willing to be there any other time. On the first steps to moving on now, I almost feel like dating again!

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