mrsmith1234 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 I was seing a chick I work with then S*** happend and I stopped talking to her and ignored her for a few weeks as my friends told me to do the whole no contact thing. Now she's seeing someone else from work. She Skyped me the other day and said; "I thought since you didn't talk to me we were over. But I still have feelings for you, but they are not what they used to be. I have feeling for this other guy as well and out of morals I cannot see you both." She also told me that I understand her and she's not happy with this other guy... She said she wants me as a friend at the moment because she needs me in her life and sucks that I cannot be. I stated we were not friends before, what we were was different and the friendship came with that. We can go back to how things were or be mutual acquaintances. She said we will go back to being mutual acquaintances. I hate that I now realize how much I liked her and regret everything I have done. I just want to fix it. Any advice on what I should do?
Darren Steez Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 I was seing a chick I work with then S*** happend and I stopped talking to her and ignored her for a few weeks as my friends told me to do the whole no contact thing. Now she's seeing someone else from work. She Skyped me the other day and said; "I thought since you didn't talk to me we were over. But I still have feelings for you, but they are not what they used to be. I have feeling for this other guy as well and out of morals I cannot see you both." She also told me that I understand her and she's not happy with this other guy... She said she wants me as a friend at the moment because she needs me in her life and sucks that I cannot be. I stated we were not friends before, what we were was different and the friendship came with that. We can go back to how things were or be mutual acquaintances. She said we will go back to being mutual acquaintances. I hate that I now realize how much I liked her and regret everything I have done. I just want to fix it. Any advice on what I should do? Oh lord, Yes Run! So she's seeing someone else, has enough morals not to see you both but still she likes you, has feelings for you and doesn't like this other guy much huh? Why is she with him. She just wants to be "friends" i.e we'll keep in contact while I'm with this other bloke I really like..*yes she likes him that's why she's seeing him* but if it doesn't work out then I'll ramp up the sweetness and maybe we can start something after that. She just wants to be *friends* she's already given you the "I don't really like him..", she'll ramp it up with the "he doesn't do it for me" etc etc, might start up something with you before then ... No she's not your friend, your buddy or your pal..and she sounds like a cheater..cut your losses before they become substantial.
todreaminblue Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 I was seing a chick I work with then S*** happend and I stopped talking to her and ignored her for a few weeks as my friends told me to do the whole no contact thing. Now she's seeing someone else from work. She Skyped me the other day and said; "I thought since you didn't talk to me we were over. But I still have feelings for you, but they are not what they used to be. I have feeling for this other guy as well and out of morals I cannot see you both." She also told me that I understand her and she's not happy with this other guy... She said she wants me as a friend at the moment because she needs me in her life and sucks that I cannot be. I stated we were not friends before, what we were was different and the friendship came with that. We can go back to how things were or be mutual acquaintances. She said we will go back to being mutual acquaintances. I hate that I now realize how much I liked her and regret everything I have done. I just want to fix it. Any advice on what I should do? this is the same chic in the no contact backfired thread? The oen who is yoru ex girlfriend? and now she is with someone else......its a no go..sorry ...deb
Author mrsmith1234 Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 I fully figured that was the reason she still wants to be friends. The main answer you guys have given is "RUN" any other options? I know I shouldn't have stopped talking to her and blocked her out at first and thats where some of the damage arisen from. We never officially broke up.. I don't not a classic case of oneitis. I have been out with a few girls since I stopped seeing her but non of them compair in personality. Sure they may be more attractive but the're not as smart,funny and I guess they don't get me like she did. I screwed up so there must be a way to fix it? I don't believe its an unfixable crack in the pipe, I'm just missing the tools to fix it. Thanks for your replies! Oh and if you want to read the whole back story its http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/380616-no-contact-backfired-still-possible-get-ex-back Its very long sorry!
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