Case of mixed signals

[Cnmc]

I met this woman through OLD, we're both 27, we had a meetup, then a few dates, and now I'm kinda stuck due to a lot of mixed signals.

 

Quick summary on the girl, while I wouldn't say she's shy, she's kinda an introvert and conservative, I'm pretty sure she hasn't really dated in some time nor has been in a relationship for some time (though we haven't really talked about exes and past relationships).

 

Quick meetup for coffee went well, while I wouldn't say there was a definite spark and wasn't sure what to think, I decided to ask her out and see how it would go. First date ended up being a walk through some nice areas in the city, very pleasant conversation and starting to maybe see a spark. Next date we go ice skating, very good overall, handholding and a good part of physical touch (which wasn't present before) and playful conversation. She messages me after saying she had a pleasant evening.

 

Communications between dates was very low aside from settings up the dates, she has no cellphone (so no txting), dislike talking on the phone and our work schedules during the week are very conflictual, so it was pretty much only emailing. Except once, where she did initiate, it was always me initiating contact and she woud get straight to the point and usually wouldn't message any further, wouldn't message after a date (expect the ice skating one).

 

Then come our last date, where we went to see a movie. It was empty aside from us, so it did ended up being a lot more talking and joking about the movie, and while she was smiling and enjoying herself, she was quite closed off to pretty much any touching.

After the movie I offered to walk her home (she lives somewhere nearby) and she gave me a quite weird look and said something like "To my home? Let's just walk a bit and part ways" (which I'm pretty sure ended up being a longer distance cause she doubled back after). This left me a bit sour and the she was very quick about a hug and kiss on the cheek as we parted.

 

So my dilemna here is that while she seemed quite interested in the first two dates, last one left me a bit confused with a lot of mixed signals. While there was some positive stuff, like when talking about glasses she asks if I like girls with glasses (she wears lenses), lingering in the theater, always smiling, rubbing hands for warmth because it's cold outside. But then she would also seem closed off. And still no response to my message after we got home.

 

So right now, I've decided to let it lie low for a while, to see if she's gonna contact me back. I realized I like this girl quite a lot, she's pretty, smart and interesting, and while she's not the most outgoing and kinda conservative (which usually doesn't go that well with me since I'm not the most outgoing either), it seemed to go well and not matter much aside from things going quite slowly. But now I'm left wondering wether she is interested or not, I got stuck into the friendzone (3 dates-no kiss), she just want to take it slow (which I don't mind really, I'd just like to know). I've been pondering messaging her to ask some of that, but I have a feeling that's a bad idea and anyway if she doesn't contact me by herself it would probably be not worth it. I also don't really want to just let it go, in the case I'm just reading it all wrong and she's still interested but will think I lost interest (I think I acted clearly interested, but then again maybe I'm sending mixed signals without knowing).

 

Advice and insight from other perspectives would probably help me here

[Lani]

She doesn't seem interested.

That's pretty much all there is to it.