ComeUpOutDaWahta Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Awkward as this may sound, I'd much rather ask you fine people for a spot of help rather than making myself look like a clown, so here goes. So, I call up prospective date this afternoon, leave a message asking if she would like to do something with me Thursday or Friday. She responds with a text saying she's at work (so she couldn't answer the phone) and she is off Thursday and Friday. So I send this painfully indirect text in return that still hurts to read: "Ah ok. Thursday night then? I just got my return in, wanted to celebrate a little." She replies that she is down but, is it even clear that this is going to be a date? Also, is there any way to weed out the confusion prior to actually meeting up? I would hate to suggest going to a nice restaurant together after meeting up, only to see her eyes light up in "omg he thinks this is a date" shock. I think I would have to uncomfortably excuse myself for the night if that were to happen. This one's special gents, and I at least want to do myself the favor of carrying things out properly if this girl is as great as she seems. Any thoughts or opinions are thoroughly appreciated!
Divasu Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 How did the two of you meet? Hmm, I'm not sure if you should 'clear anything up' prior to a first date, better to save that for when you're on the date with her by showing her --> it's a date. Know what I mean? 1
todreaminblue Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Awkward as this may sound, I'd much rather ask you fine people for a spot of help rather than making myself look like a clown, so here goes. So, I call up prospective date this afternoon, leave a message asking if she would like to do something with me Thursday or Friday. She responds with a text saying she's at work (so she couldn't answer the phone) and she is off Thursday and Friday. So I send this painfully indirect text in return that still hurts to read: "Ah ok. Thursday night then? I just got my return in, wanted to celebrate a little." She replies that she is down but, is it even clear that this is going to be a date? Also, is there any way to weed out the confusion prior to actually meeting up? I would hate to suggest going to a nice restaurant together after meeting up, only to see her eyes light up in "omg he thinks this is a date" shock. I think I would have to uncomfortably excuse myself for the night if that were to happen. This one's special gents, and I at least want to do myself the favor of carrying things out properly if this girl is as great as she seems. Any thoughts or opinions are thoroughly appreciated! as the poster above said dont worry about clearing up the confusion before the date, when you are out together ....see how ti goes see fi she is receptive and she may even ask then you can say well yes i consider this a date, how about you? That way you will get your answer......deb
Author ComeUpOutDaWahta Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 How did the two of you meet? Hmm, I'm not sure if you should 'clear anything up' prior to a first date, better to save that for when you're on the date with her by showing her --> it's a date. Know what I mean? We met one weekend ago, admittedly under the influence, and had what I thought was an amazing time together. No hooking up or holding hands or anything, just some deep conversation for several hours, closeness etc. We had known each other for some time beforehand, but never really spent time together until that night. Thank you for the advice! It definitely gives me one less thing to stress about here . One question though: what do I do if she's put off by the "date" idea? Leave then and there? Or hang out as "friends" with the overbearing theme of the night being that I had a totally different idea about how the night would go?
Divasu Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 We met one weekend ago, admittedly under the influence, and had what I thought was an amazing time together. No hooking up or holding hands or anything, just some deep conversation for several hours, closeness etc. We had known each other for some time beforehand, but never really spent time together until that night. Thank you for the advice! It definitely gives me one less thing to stress about here . One question though: what do I do if she's put off by the "date" idea? Leave then and there? Or hang out as "friends" with the overbearing theme of the night being that I had a totally different idea about how the night would go? You're welcome! Just go out and have fun, you'll be fine.
Author ComeUpOutDaWahta Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 You're welcome! Just go out and have fun, you'll be fine. Thank you thank you and thank you some more
Divasu Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Thank you thank you and thank you some more "mhmm!"
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