Rocky road Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 (edited) She called with a heartless robotic message with a lot of long pauses. I took a try at being her friend and realized I could not because it is unfair to me. Anyways I sent a goodbye email, not begging, no expectations, just my point of view. She responded saying she still loves me and that sorry I took her vm that way, now she does not know what is up. See what that does? It asks for more and I sent one more just saying huh? Excuses she did not respond is she is with fam now. This is someone who put me in friend zone weeks ago. We were together 5 years, she left a few months ago and left things vague until last month. I gave an ultimatum last month because I had to. She avoids everything and will dodge any real questions. See how she is trying to make me the bad guy but can't? She left, screwed me over, and was just bored the last year. Last thing she said is she will call if I want to listen. I just reiterated that there is some things I cannot do, which is be friends. What u think? I was not an ass, just a guy speaking his mind. I am not her back-up dude. No contact may have worked and tried it but if you ever want things to work you have to try and communicate again at some point. Edited March 20, 2013 by Rocky road error
destroyed4sho Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Bad guy?? No your not bad guy for putting yourself first after she dumped you! Friends after a BU is useless anyway. There is no friends after BU, even if you agreed she will fade eventually. (unless you were good friends bf the relationship started). Dumpers do this to help THEMSELVES after a break up. Its a comfort to know that your ex will be around whenever you decide to get in touch with them.They have access to the parts of you that they want without any committment or expections. It helps them NOT YOU. Very selfish of them to request friendship. My ex did and said the same. Read my latest post and people comments.
Author Rocky road Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 Yea its like she wants to save face and make me say something profane so she could tell her friends how much of an ass I am (which never happened), or leave things friendly so she can feel comforted knowing I didnt give a **** and am fine when talking to her friends. Or, there is the safety net possibility and just her feeling guilty or unable to own up to her actions. All of these have nothing to do with me.
destroyed4sho Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Yes rocky, just NC her. And just remember when ever she says 'i love you still' its just a ploy to get you do what she wants. Dont get sucked in. Loving someone = wanting to be with them 1
Drummerboy420 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Good for you, dude! I just did the same thing this past Sunday. 6 year relationship. She broke up with me back in November, but dragged me along for months. Wanting me around but wanting to date other guys as well. Wants to be friends. Swears she can't bear the thought of me never being in her life again. Told her that it is what it is. I'm out. You gotta look out for yourself or you'll never heal. 1
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