Infusion Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 My girlfriend and I were talking on msn last night, we spent a long time talking about things until she told me that her friend wanted pics of her topless. She told me she was about to send them to him, but he went offline already. Now, this friend of her's is a close friend whom she knew for years (even before I met her), and that they have no problems talking about anything. Just the other day, my girlfriend was telling me that he was sending him pics of himself naked- which she later sent me (but i didn't take the photos). She said they have a little trust thing going on and that she doesn't see it as being wrong taking pics of her topless /naked. I dont know if it's just me, but as soon as i heard what she told me about the pictures she took of herself topless, I felt creeped out and disturbed. A while ago i remembered her telling me that all her friends like taking pictures of themselves naked and sending them to her. At that time all those pics were pics of her girl friends, but now it's escalated to this, and now she's fine with sending pics of herself to this male friend of her's. I dunno if this will make things look any better, but his male friend swings both ways (bi-sexual). Add that to the fact that he wanted those pictures, i have no idea what it all means. My girlfriend told me she is more inclined to send him those pictures than sending them to me because he makes her feel good about her body. She also mentioned that he doesn't judge her but that I do. Once again I didn't know what to say, I don't think that I judge her, but there are times when we would talk silly and talk about how her nose is so pointy or things like that (all playing around though- and she knows). I was so shocked about this revelation last night that I couldn't sleep properly or think about anything else. When I was talking to her I couldn't even find the right words to express how I feel too, but she kept telling me that she doesnt think it's wrong. Anyways, I would really appreciate your thoughts on this . Thanks alot PS. she didn't have a problem sending me those pictures last night when I wanted to see just exactly what they were or if she was fooling with me.
Papillon Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 Is she f*cking crazy? Her boobs are meant for you and you alone. [color=red][size=20]BIG. F*CKING. RED. FLAG.[/color]
FolderWife Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 I think it's not normal. I think she and her friends are weird. But I also think that she's young, and looking to them to make her feel good about herself...since her dumb boyfriend makes fun of the way she looks. IMPORTANT NOTE: I don't care HOW MUCH your woman insists that she knows you're just "playing around" when you say she has a pointy nose, or big thighs....she takes it to heart. I absolutely hate it when my husband laughs and pokes my belly to insinuate that I've put on a few pounds. He defends it like he's just playing, but as soon as I turn around and do it to him, he gets mad. You really don't like her nose, do you?
Author Infusion Posted September 9, 2004 Author Posted September 9, 2004 I didn't know it bothered her that much, because whenever we would talk about that, she wouldn't be mad at me, she'll just laugh or giggle. However, after last night, i think she really implied how she felt about it. I wrote her an email this morning, and I also told myself I'll not poke fun at her again. It was purely for fun, I really have no problem with the way she looks or anything, i guess alot of guys make that same mistake? anyways, how should I approach this problem of mine ? (about her sending topless photos to her friend)
tiki Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 WTF? I'd dump her. She's a hooch for sending naked pics to another man while commited to you. That's so freakin crazy! Friends or not, man that's total BS. How can you not see that this is WRONG?! How do you feel about her getting naked pics of him? OMG, somebody pinch me, this cannot be real! Oh, and ditto to papillon. Dayum!
tiki Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 Originally posted by Infusion we would talk silly and talk about how her nose is so pointy or things like that DUDE! You can't do this! You're going to hurt her freaking feelings. You shouldn't point out imperfections. Like "Damn, your nose looks soooo big today"...I'd backhand a mofo. Maybe you guys are good for each other, but that's just messed up.
Papillon Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 Originally posted by tikibrandy I'd backhand a mofo OMFG you just made me spit coffee all over my computer! :lmao::lmao::lmao:
EC Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 WTF???? I love my friends and we are close but we are not that close. Do her friends have nothing to do all day that they sit and send eachother pics of themselves naked? Why would she want to do that? Seriously I agree with PAPILLION BIG RED FLAG!!! Very immature thing to do, and you should step and say hell no you arent sending those pics. But it sounds like she'll send them anyways. This topic is just too weird. I'm out.
EC Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 Originally posted by tikibrandy I'd backhand a mofo OMG lmao Had to put it on my sig!
Papillon Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd WTF???? I love my friends and we are close but we are not that close. s***. I was really hoping to see some o' dat booty.
Fayebelle Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 It doesn't matter if sending these pics is wrong or not (I think it is but anyway)... The fact is this is something that REALLY bothers YOU- you consider HER body sacred and yours- you are not making an outlandish request- so she should respect your feelings enough to abide by that request. Is this "friend" seeing her body more important than your feelings? If so- get a new girl. This one doesn't deserve you.
Barby Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 I have to agree 100% that this should be a big red flag! OMG most women wouldn't be okay sending naked pics of themselves to their female or male friends.. She says she is doing it because it makes her feel better about her body Well ask yourself this....what else would she do to feel good about herself?? If I were you I would seriously consider if this is someone you really want to be with, why would she want naked pics of her female friends (unless she's bi) and of her males friends unless she has intentions of some other type....I think seeing all your friends in the nude would be uncomfortable when you were all just hanging out. Sounds twisted to me!!!
EC Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 s***. I was really hoping to see some o' dat booty. LMAO I was so not expecting that..I laughed so hard everyone looked at me funny. (well they always do) lol My booty used to be my avatar lol
Author Infusion Posted September 9, 2004 Author Posted September 9, 2004 She doesn't ask for pictures of her friends naked, but they would all send those pics to her without any problems. A few weeks ago though, she would tell me about how weird it was that her friends do that to her, but I dunno what happened..
Fayebelle Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 ummm- no offense- I all my LS pals- but if anyone here started polluting my Inbox w/naked pics (not to be confused w/pics of Naked ) - The last thing they would get is a return favor. More likely they'd hear the most colorful version of Miss Faye's vocab followed by an ignore this fool on my box! but that's just me...
Papillon Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 So I won't be seeing your booty anytime soon, either, huh?
EC Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 She doesn't ask for pictures of her friends naked, but they would all send those pics to her without any problems. A few weeks ago though, she would tell me about how weird it was that her friends do that to her, but I dunno what happened.. are you serious? How come I'm just not believing this? How old are you guys? Friends do not just start sending you naked pictures out of nowhere..... She's definitely holding out information from you. I hope you are not serious about this gf..
EC Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 So I won't be seeing your booty anytime soon, either, huh? Well it has been two weeks and you kinda got me to care with the whole 1 year story...... jkjkjkjkjkjkjkjkjk lolol ps. ($35?) lmao
Author Infusion Posted September 9, 2004 Author Posted September 9, 2004 well, I am 19 and she's 18, we met in high school and have been going out for a little over a year now. She's in university some 8 hours away right now and we wont be able to see each other until a while later (when i visit her or when she visits me). I dunno what goes on with her and her friends though, and why they would send pics like that to each other. But one time she told me that her male friend (the one i mentioned earlier) liked slapping her butt or doing little creepy things like that. I dunno what i am getting myself into, but yes i am really serious about her, although i have no idea what it is that is going on with her and her friends. I am talking to her right now but finding it pretty hard to.. but she seems to have recovered from last night's argument.. By the way, I felt so disgusted last night that I wanted to throw up (for real)
EC Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 Ok wow... She's young and she's 8 hours away from you. Now I can't say anything cuz my bf is 8 hours exactly away from me too but hes not sending naked pics around (I hope) But anyways...If shes sending naked pictures on the internet not caring about your feelings...imagine whats shes doing up there without you there? This girl sounds like trash sorry...I dont think you should go there anymore.
tiki Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 Please forward all nekked pics to Papillon so that he can provide his discretion.
YellowLioness Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 I just walk up to people, and say, "hey, wanna see my perky b cup boobs?" ONly not really. My friends S and M (ha ha) are married, and they send naked pics of themselves, eachother, and everyone to everyone they know. Its no biggie. Then again, they f*ck other people, too. So, whatever works.
Honesty Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 The BIG problem here is that it bothers you! She should not do things that will make you feel uncomfortable. I personally would not send naked pictures of myself to any of my friends, WTF for? I would send them to my bf though, that would be a nice surprise for him.
EC Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 lol yellow u need to stop showing your boobies k? Only when your drunk and at a party on a table listening to...wait..?
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