jeni35 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 My husband n I have been together for 18 yrs and we have 2 kids...We have both been unfaithful, mine was just to get back at him...which is not right either. He is leaving now, hes looking for a house and I'm scared i won't make it without him financially...I just opened a salon and it is a lil slow though hopefully it will pick up if not I will find a part time job...I guess what I'm scared of is I've never been alone, I went from my dad's home to my husband's and now my dad has passed away n I have no one to help me through this...I have my boys to keep me company n to take care of but no adults...I'm alone in a world I have never been in alone...I don't know what to do so any help would be a blessing, and once were separated that's it...not getting back together...we will go for the divorce . Oh and we have tried to keep things good for the past 5 yrs...it's finally just taken its toll n I had gotten a lil mouthy n rude lately...so maybe I'm just as emotionally done as he is, he's just not worried I guess... Please help...good advice welcome, no negative I give myself enough of that already...Thanks
Mr. Lucky Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 no negative I give myself enough of that already...Thanks Ah, if only it was that easy on a public forum . Is there a trade association of other salon owners you can join? They might be able to help you with everything from marketing ideas to purchasing power to moral support. Owning your own small business is about as tough as it gets. Similarly, there are support groups for newly divorced parents that talk about topics from how to balance a checkbook to how to deal with your STBXH. In your situation, there is strength in numbers... Mr. Lucky 3
TailSpin75 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Hi Jeni - are you inquiring about being alone as in taking care of yourself - or being alone as in what do I do with my time?
ver13 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 You can try "living Social" it may help on the business end of this journey that you are on. Starting over is always hard no matter what you do but it's got to get done. Being scared is alright fear can be a motivator as long as you use it to push you forward not back. The previous poster mentioned some great resource that you can use to get you where you need to be.
imtooconfused Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 jeni35, I get where you are coming from. It's got to be tough to be struggling to move on with your separated life while at the same time struggling to get the new business started. I imagine, when business picks up, the time will seem to fly from open to close. But while you are just starting, it's frustrating to sit and wait for the bell on the door to ring. If you need the help financially, you should look for the part-time job sooner rather than later. It will give you something to divert your mind and give you some other adults with who you can bond, in addition to the extra cash. If you don't need the money so badly, you can consider volunteering your time to a worthwhile organization. I am sure the local chamber of commerce could use some help, and that might help build your business at the same time. Lastly, don't be afraid to reach out here. You might get some negativity, but for the most part, the folks here really want to help.
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