mtnbiker3000 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 she does start to date other guys. Will she think that maybe she had a good thing with me and should have kept it? I dunno. Maybe she will find someone who will be everything she ever wanted. I guess I take some gratification in thinking that will not be the case. Especially in this crappy, small town we live in now. There is slim pickens (both men and women). I'm sure that 'rosy' periods will exist with lots of Oxytocin and what not, but I bet that will fade quickly and the real relationship will be worse than what we had. Ha! Is it wrong for me to fantasize about this? Does anyone else have these thoughts?? I really will never know, because we will be NC probably forever once we settle up all bills and crap in 6 or so weeks…
MushyPeas Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 You won't know what she thinks about you and it shouldn't matter to you anyway, works the other way round too Maybe you'll be the one to find someone who's everything you ever wanted, try to concentrate on that thought rather than the same applied to her. Hey, if having these thoughts is what gets you through your day then that's fine!, just don't let them become your only motive for feeling happy, surround yourself with other things and what she's doing or how great/not so great her life is will really mean so little to you.
Coping Vortex Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 You won't know what she thinks about you and it shouldn't matter to you anyway, works the other way round too Maybe you'll be the one to find someone who's everything you ever wanted, try to concentrate on that thought rather than the same applied to her. Hey, if having these thoughts is what gets you through your day then that's fine!, just don't let them become your only motive for feeling happy, surround yourself with other things and what she's doing or how great/not so great her life is will really mean so little to you. I think we all hope and think the same things. That the new relationship will be worse than ours. My ex even told me all the things that were better about our relationship. But she is with him. It's because even though we have the history they have the excitement of falling in new love. Hard to beat that. 2
destroyed4sho Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 I think we all hope and think the same things. That the new relationship will be worse than ours. My ex even told me all the things that were better about our relationship. But she is with him. It's because even though we have the history they have the excitement of falling in new love. Hard to beat that. You know what tho? Brand new relationships may be exciting but I rather be in a stable real loving relationship past the honeymoon stage where I have true love with the person and them for me...rather than the fake hormone driven excitement of somethig new that may or may not work out. I want someone I can come home to, read a book in bed with, close the lights and hold their hand until we fall asleep. F++k honeymoon stage! 3
Coping Vortex Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 You know what tho? Brand new relationships may be exciting but I rather be in a stable real loving relationship past the honeymoon stage where I have true love with the person and them for me...rather than the fake hormone driven excitement of somethig new that may or may not work out. I want someone I can come home to, read a book in bed with, close the lights and hold their hand until we fall asleep. F++k honeymoon stage! Dude I'm with you.
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