Wonder310 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 I love this girl. I met her on Facebook two years ago. We started messaging eachother & I had a crush on her. I saw something different. Uniqueness in her you know? Maturity. Anyways, we were gonna get together but she cut me off completely. She got a boyfriend. I was crushed. So I waited for her A year later I move to Vegas, still waiting for her to miss me or something. She did, finally. We became great friends, slept on the phone due to distance, talked all the time, etc. But she didn't know I still had feelings for her .. She broke up with her recent boyfriend & I was SO happy, not to be mean to the other guy. Anyways, SHE ENDED UP GETTING WITH SOMEONE ELSE. So me being the overly dedicated person I am, I waited. Now it's 2013, I end up moving back to Texas, where she lives, & she is single. I tell her how I feel about her. She gets mixed feelings about it & once again, cuts me off to get back with one of her exs. It lasted about a week though because he cheated. So all her exs did her wrong. We started sleeping on the phone again & I asked her to be my valentine. She said yes. Since then, she gained feelings for me. I met her for the first time at the mall & it was amazing. Got her a necklace, a big bear, & when she was leaving, we hugged & I stared into her eyes & I couldn't help but kiss her. I replay that day in my head all the time. She told me she wanted to be commited to me, so she became my girlfriend. Things were going good until she broke up with me due to the fact that I couldn't see her a lot even though I tried my best. She said she wants to try again when the distance wouldn't be a problem (shes in Houston, I'm an hour away). I was crushed. Why you ask? Because she was & is my dream girl. The next day I go on her twitter & it looks like she's trying to date & flirt already. So I start making assumptions & it gets her mad & annoyed, so she blocks me. She said shes not trying to date. So I apologize for being ignorant. She ignores me & is still ignoring me at the moment. We usually sleep on the phone every night, but not these past two days. I went on her twitter again & she IS trying to date. Says the feelings are mutual. I called her just now, but no answer. These past two years I couldn't sleep at night sometimes, because she would be on my mind. We would've been a month today. It might seem like nothing to you, but remember, I waited 2 years so it means EVERYTHING to me. I was supposed to meet her dad in May after her birthday .. To be honest, I am 15 & she's 16 but I feel like I have the mind of an adult due to experience. I do have my childish ways here & there. I'm trying my hardest to get my license so I can see her & picturing us together is my motivation. POINT IS, I don't know what to do. She's ignoring me (maybe because I annoyed her so much with all my texts, idk) & I think I love her. Any help?
Jono85 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 one day in your 20s, you will look back and laugh that you were actually contemplating suicide over a 16 year old girl. seriously. you have your whole life ahead of you. 25 yr olds barely know what they want in the opposite sex, at 15, you have no clue what your dream girl is. what you do need to learn about is self-respect. your dream girl wouldn't keep you as a 4th option or something. it's time you take her off this stupid pedestal or you're going to prolong this state for much longer than it needs to be.
destroyed4sho Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 You waited for her for 2 years, so you were like 14 and she was 13? World, what the heck is going on with kids these days? What does sleeping on the phone mean? First of all, you think she is your dream girl but you hardly know her. You are infatuated with her and who you think she is. She is the star of the fantasy world you created in your head. Come back into reality...you have been obsessing/daydreaming over someone you do not even know, FOR 2 YEARS. Waiting 2 Years for someone is UNHEALTHY. Whenever she comes into your head, push her out. I know its hard to do but you must do it. Further, it doesn't seem like she is so keen on continuing this "relationship" with you. She says your too far but its only an hour away..sounds like a bs excuse. She is wishy washy...you want someone that is not going to change their minds so often. Not a good experience for you at this tender age.
asdfasdf1234 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 The only reason anything with that post is okay is because you're 15. Having said that it still makes my stomach turn. Dude, a great lesson to learn at an early age is that girls hate neediness. And that is probably the neediest post I've ever read in my whole life. However you're young so none of this will be an issue in a few years, I hope.
The Tallest One Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Wonder310, my friend, first off I feel for you! Heartache at any age sucks, trust me I've had my share! But no girl ever is worth suicide! You have to love your self more than her or anyone you will ever meet! You might feel like she is everything to you right now, but please trust me, you will date many girls in your lifetime and this one will pale in comparison! You have to take it from someone much much older and more experienced, there are so many women in this world that you can't be stuck on just one girl! Like the last post said, you don't need someone so wishy washy, you need a girl who is crazy about you, and trust me there will be plenty! You just have to be patient and let your life unfold and allow these people to enter your life! Also, never wait for a girl, it's never worth it, I've done it and I regret it! You have so much fun and exciting and amazing experiences ahead if you, don't throw it all away! If you really can't cope or if you continue to have suicidal thoughts, go to the emergency department and speak to a crisis counsellor, they will really help you! Please be kind to yourself and get help, talk to family and friends, don't isolate, you need to reach out! Even call a suicide prevention hotline, google it or look in the phone book! You have so much to live for! And finally, in time you will look back and be thankful you didn't destroy your life and that of your families and friends and realize that no one is worth your life! Take her off that pedestal, she's not all that and won't ever be, and you deserve better, you really do! Work on your self esteem and self confidence! Keep posting, we're here for you friend! All the best!
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