McGriff Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Ok, so she broke up with me a month ago. We were still Facebook friends and yes, I'm guilty of checking her page a couple days a week. Well, on St Patty's Day, she posted a pic of herself and a bunch of people, but her ex was in it (albeit, on the other side of the pic, and she claimed before she was avoiding him like the plague). Whatever. I'm not stupid. Anyway, this afternoon, a platonic female friend of mine, who happens to be pretty hot, posted on my wall, asking if I was gonna be in my office this afternoon, because she was in the area and wanted to stop by. She also said some flirty thing about "hoping I would roll out the red carpet for her". She's like a sister to me, by the ex doesn't know that. Anyways, come to find the ex was obviously stalking my page, because now she's defriended me. Honestly, it makes me laugh because I know her little imagination ran away with her and she probably is pissed off. It feels good, because I know she is feeling a little dose of the misery that I've been dealing with for a month. I'll keep NC going, but with a little chip on my shoulder
crimsoncurrent Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 To avoid any future drama, and to lessen your distress over the situation, I suggest deleting her off your FB or deactivating yours. I think FB can only become a distraction from your well-being and healing over the breakup. It's simply emotional self-harm, I think.
destroyed4sho Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Yeah, don't get your hopes up... Dumpers stalk too...does not mean they want you back. 1
na49 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Okay cool. She's blocked, now keep doing your thing with this new girl and stay out of your ex's life. Whether she's with him or not is irrelevant to you now. You don't want to know who she's screwing nowadays. 1
Author McGriff Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 Honestly, when I first saw that she defriended me, a little ounce of panic went through me---like, omg this is really it. But now that a couple of hours has passed, I'm actually feeling good about it. Now I can go on fb and not have to worry about seeing anything from her, and people can post whatever on mine, with no repercussions. I'm feeling a bit empowered, because I know she probably thinks I'm gonna call her or text asking why and whatnot, but I'm not. I'm gonna let her imagination run wild! Hahaha I love it!
Author McGriff Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 It's weird , because I've almost been "scared" to access fb the last couple weeks. Scared of what I might see, scared of what she might see. It's really pathetic in the grand scheme of things. Now that she is gone, I access all my wonderful friends and family and use fb for its meant to be----a way to keep in touch and see and hear what is going on in my loved ones lives. She can no longer stalk me nor me her, and that's the way it should be. One thing I've learned over the last few days and weeks through trolling this site and others, is that I tired of being held prisoner to hope and everything that is my ex. We had a GREAT relationship, and she let it go, presumably for a mentally abusive and immature ex. FINE! She ****ed up, and I will move on. It's only a matter of time before she realizes the mistake she made. I am a good looking, successful man and father, and I know that she took our relationship for granted. You can only do that so many times, because (as she admitted) that kind of chemistry is HARD to find. I'm feeling the best I've felt in weeks, and while I know this is a roller coaster, I know I'm healing quickly. <rant over>
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