Bob360 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 I'm about 2 month BU and I've been keeping NC and trying to forget about her. Recently I've been thinking of her everyday and I miss her. My friends tell me to stay NC because they have been in my situation before and know that nothing good will hapoen if i contact her. What should I do??
Thunderchild Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Listen to your friends - stay No Contact - there are enough threads on this board to tell you why making contact isn't a good idea. Personally, I'm into the second month of No Contact. I'm still at the stage, where, if I saw my ex in the street, I'd be hard pressed not to shove her teeth down her throat. I personally don't advocate volence, and I've never raised my hand to a woman in my life, but, I'm still very angry at my ex. I have to work through that and No Contact (plus this board) is helping me get through it. Stay strong, stay the course, maintain your dignity!! Stay No Contact!
crimsoncurrent Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 I agree with the replies and your friend at their suggestion of maintaining NC. I'm a little over two months of NC, and even though I haven't seen my ex in over three months, I still think about her everyday, wondering if I'd ever see her again. I honestly couldn't imagine how miserable I would be if I did not uphold NC . Keep strong, man. 1
ToyStoryThree Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 My God, your situation is me right now. I'm three months post BU, 7 days NC and can't stop thinking about her, the first time we met etc. IT's driving me mad. 2
h3braica Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 3 mos of BU, 48 days of NC. today is his birthday. have the strong urge to email and greet him since last night but i know it wouldn't help me. i want to keep in touch from day 1 of BU but it's pointless. feels like i'm in a different world that contacting him isn't possible forever.
RiceaRoni Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Keep going NC! Haha it's too late to turn back now. You've gotten pretty far which is good. I'm on month 4/5 NC 2
Author Bob360 Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 Is it stupid of me to still think I would give my ex another chance if the opportunity came? She broke my heart and lied to me but some part of me still still has hope? Is this norma:rolleyes:l?
h3braica Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Is it stupid of me to still think I would give my ex another chance if the opportunity came? She broke my heart and lied to me but some part of me still still has hope? Is this norma:rolleyes:l? i think it's normal. i feel it sometimes and cried afterwards because getting back together isn't possible for us. if she lied to you and broke your heart there's a big chance that she will do it again until you hate her forever. stop hoping and move on.
TaraMaiden Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Is it stupid of me to still think I would give my ex another chance if the opportunity came? She broke my heart and lied to me but some part of me still still has hope? Is this normal? Oh, ......you don't want to know what my opinion of Hope is. "Big fat zero" and 'false' spring to mind. Hope is Hyped. The way to think is to write down, logically, sensibly and rationally, what good - NON~EMOTIONAL - reasons you would possibly have to 'give your ex- another chance. What, practically, would be the advantage of doing that? Then, make a totally emotional list - which I guarantee will be pretty short - and see which one carries and you'll see the imbalance and futility of it all....
Amelie1980 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 (edited) Oh, ......you don't want to know what my opinion of Hope is. "Big fat zero" and 'false' spring to mind. Hope is Hyped. The way to think is to write down, logically, sensibly and rationally, what good - NON~EMOTIONAL - reasons you would possibly have to 'give your ex- another chance. What, practically, would be the advantage of doing that? Then, make a totally emotional list - which I guarantee will be pretty short - and see which one carries and you'll see the imbalance and futility of it all.... Good point..... See my ex had something of a nervous breakdown. He had family problems, lost his job, two deaths of people close to him and nearly lost a limb with a severe infection.... I had a slight temper lapse and he went mad on me sobbing and crying for days saying he couldn't now love me anymore.... Jesus Christ I thought....the week before we had been discussing holidays and whatnot for the next year. See a tiny part of me holds out some hope. That when his mess is sorted out he will realise what he's done... But with the op's case lying etc for no reason...there's no excuse for that behaviour. Edited March 21, 2013 by Amelie1980
TaraMaiden Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Amelie, you know, if I may say so, you've come on leaps and bounds from the 'Amelie' that once was. I know you may not feel through it yet, but things seem a little brighter for you....
Amelie1980 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 Amelie, you know, if I may say so, you've come on leaps and bounds from the 'Amelie' that once was. I know you may not feel through it yet, but things seem a little brighter for you.... Thank you x I am still suffering a lot. My confidence is still in pieces and I rarely go out at weekends. But the suicidal thoughts have stopped. I guess the last step is killing any hope I have left hey?
Wabisabi Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 I'm about 2 month BU and I've been keeping NC and trying to forget about her. Recently I've been thinking of her everyday and I miss her. My friends tell me to stay NC because they have been in my situation before and know that nothing good will hapoen if i contact her. What should I do?? Gosh me too...trying sooo hard...NOT...to make...contact!!!
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