aliceb1987 Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 This has happened twice now....Guys i have been seeing for like 1-2 months and it hasn't worked out with have deleted me off facebook as soon as things are called off.Both times they have forced me to end things because they have obviously wanted out and have gone all funny with me but won't bother being straight and telling me the truth even when i give them the opportunity to. Both have ended amicably and like i say both times the guys weren't bothered... and obviously i was okay about it because i realised things weren't right and wanted to end it! So why delete me from facebook for?! May sound silly,but it just frustrates me! I understand it when there's feelings involved and people could get hurt by things they see...but this was not the case here. Can anyone please enlighten me on the reasons behind this behaviour? Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 This has happened twice now....Guys i have been seeing for like 1-2 months and it hasn't worked out with have deleted me off facebook as soon as things are called off.Both times they have forced me to end things because they have obviously wanted out and have gone all funny with me but won't bother being straight and telling me the truth even when i give them the opportunity to. Both have ended amicably and like i say both times the guys weren't bothered... and obviously i was okay about it because i realised things weren't right and wanted to end it! So why delete me from facebook for?! May sound silly,but it just frustrates me! I understand it when there's feelings involved and people could get hurt by things they see...but this was not the case here. Can anyone please enlighten me on the reasons behind this behaviour? Why remain facebook friends with someone you dated but things didn't work out? Who cares? 5 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 I don't stay in contact with people I have no more relations with. What's the point? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 A girl did this to me after canceling our third date. She never responded to any of my texts or phone calls either. I think of it as a very clear rejection notice... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 So why delete me from facebook for?! Because you're not friends and you're not going to date any more. You're asking the wrong question. Can you answer this one: Why would you stay connected on Facebook? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliceb1987 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Share Posted March 19, 2013 Well mainly because i think it's abit pathetic not being able to stay friends :-S It just seems mean to cut someone out of your life like that Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 I cut people off when they annoyed me beyond a certain point. To me friendship is based on mutual respect and love or like. Why would I want to be 'friends' with someone who doesn't want my company? Why would you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Well mainly because i think it's abit pathetic not being able to stay friends :-S It just seems mean to cut someone out of your life like that Depends. Are you actually trying to be friendly with them? I have a girl in my life (my class) who considers me her "friend", but I'm the one that always does the initiating when it comes to communicating. I'm just keeping up with the pleasantries, but as soon as this semester is over, she's done. I really hope she doesn't think it's rude of me, because if she really wanted to be "friends" she would have the ability to send me a text first at least once in her life. So I hope she doesn't think it's a dick move of me when I inevitably cut her out of my life in May. Link to post Share on other sites
Object_a Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 I wouldn't take it personally. It's probably a good thing - do you really want to see photos of their dogs/meals/babies/drunk friends and status updates about football for years to come? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
grkBoy Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Sorry...we men are usually black and white, cut and dry on most matters like this. If I went after a girl, we dated a little, didn't work out, and it's generally a case of "she's not feeling it" but I am...then I move on completely. I don't want to be "just friends" with a female that I wish to have as my girlfriend. You might think this sounds cold and mean, but most guys who want more are still going to try for more in the friendzone...thus they aren't really your friends. Either they'll criticize you for every guy you actually do want (and be harsher when the guy of your desires turns out to be a playa or jerk), or they simply keep trying to flatter/impress you into trying more. Usually creating an uncomfortable atmosphere. In all honesty, I wouldn't friend a girl on Facebook so quickly. I'd see where we go and then go into that based on where we end up. Link to post Share on other sites
snowflakes88 Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Well mainly because i think it's abit pathetic not being able to stay friends :-S It just seems mean to cut someone out of your life like that There's a HUGE difference between not being able to stay friends and not wanting to stay friends. If I dated someone for a month or two and things don't work out, I'd delete them too. If we weren't friends before and are no longer dating, why continue to grant them access to my life? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Aerrie Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Haha, good thread guys, thanks. It has just given me an idea and now my Facebook friend list is two thirds smaller. Awesome I never to talk to any of those people anyway, they just spamm it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I do it so I can move on and to prevent myself from checking on you. Im really only fb friends with one girl I stopped seeing, and that was recent. Shes the only girl whos ever ended things with me in a good way and didnt get me down much. Cool girl she is. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Haha, good thread guys, thanks. It has just given me an idea and now my Facebook friend list is two thirds smaller. Awesome I never to talk to any of those people anyway, they just spamm it. Yep, thanks! I think I can go in and safely delete half my friends. And not a one of them will notice. I am confounded by the importance people place on FB. It allowed me to reconnect with kids I started school with 45 years ago, but beyond that.......... I know a few people who would never get a professional job if an employer got a glimpse of the crap they post! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I got less than 10 Facebook friends, 1 of them is my mother. There is a reason for that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I am still Facebook friends with most guys I dated. I see it as an experiment, to see who they hook up next and to learn why we failed. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I got less than 10 Facebook friends, 1 of them is my mother. There is a reason for that. That's sweet! Link to post Share on other sites
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