mrsmith1234 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Okay. I work part time with my now (EX Girlfriend). We met just before new years, we exchanged numbers at work because I knew she liked me and I thought she was cute. First Meeting: New years: I went out with my friends to the city and got totally smash (as you do its New Years!) I get a text from that chick saying "do I get my New Years kiss?". I saw her in town and she ran up and kissed me. I hung out with her the rest of the night until my friend dropped myself, her and my other mates home. I was wasted the whole time I was with her so I began getting frisky in the car which she didn't seem to mind too much. I ended up finger banging her in the back of my friends car with everyone watching (something I AM DEFINITELY NOT PROUD OF) I couldn't remember everything that happend but she filled me in a few days later. I apparently said "how to you get do know someone without Fu**ing them first?" I did her my friend say that earlier in the night so I figured thats where I got the saying from. She liked what I was doing to her but she was also very embarrassed as all my friends were in the car... She agreed for me to take her out on out first date together (her actual first date) she is 18 and still a virgin. I took her for Ice cream then we got a hookah, sat and talked for a while then drove to a park. We then sat on bench started making out then we went into the back of my car. She took off my pants and gave me a BJ, I was rubbing her through her pants. She wanted to have sex but she was on her period (ACTUALLY) She was going to take her pants off but I said not to worry (AS I DID NOT WANT TO GO THERE WITH THAT SITUATION) . She brought up what I said on New Years "how to you get do know someone without Fu**ing them first" I was soo embarrassed and didn't know what to say! So my idiot self just said the first thing that I could think of which is "I think that is kind of true". **** MOVE, YES I KNOW! We kept talking day after day over the phone and text and everything was okay. (I now know she had been taking advice from her friends) Then the worst situation (for me) happened. We met up, she talks about the first date and what we did and what I said. She said "I understand if you don't want to see me again, I'm not ready to have sex just yet" I told her, I liked her I would wait. She then got kind of upset and said "I thought you were going to break it off with me soo I kind of said yes to a date..." (the guy is someone in a different department and has been dopping her home for months) Then she said "if you don't want me to see him then I won't." we continued the date, went to the beach. We sat on a blanket and listened to music and talked. She could see I wasn't that impressed so she started to try cheer me up by kissing me... She asked me "are we exclusive" I freaked out and wasn't sure what the heck to say, I liked her but wasn't ready to be exclusive. Stupid me said what I figured was the RIGHT thing to say. I said "I just want to see you, I don't wanna see you with other guys" She obviously was freaked out also. The date came to the end, she said I think I have to go out with the guy once because he's organized it and I feel bad... I said "I thought you weren't going to see him." she was unsure herself. Anyways we kissed goodnight and she said she would speak to her best friend to see what to do!?!. Next day we met up, she said she was going to see him because all her friends said thats the thing todo "you don't want to be tied down". Anyways I was lost - I didn't know what to do. I stupidly went to my best friends for advice - they said "leave it bro, stop texting her, don't talk to her for a few weeks." THE NO CONTACT RULE. She kept texted me - I didn't reply much, kind of went silent on her. I avoided eye contact and talking to her which made her intern do the same thing. She starting seeing that other guy. One month passed and we all went out from work including her. She was awkward with me at first but then as soon as other chicks started talking with me she was like "lets go get a drink" She bought me drinks then stole me away and stated coming on to me! She then stated I missed you, the other guy she is seeing is not me but she cannot be with me because she is seeing him! She said she was waiting for me to talk to her, but I never did... NO CONTACT RULE BACKFIRED? Anyways she figure we were FRIENDS - I thought we were back on... I invited her over to my place to drink, get high and watch a movie. She was very keen, she came over and everything was great. She was on my bed snuggling with me, then I tried to kiss her and everything went to SH*T! She said "I can't, I have a boyfriend". I was gobsmacked, why the hell did she come over!?!?! She said she misses hanging with me and wanted to be friends. WTF! I stated "we were never friends before, we were more then friends and that friendship came with whole package" I cannot be just friends with you that it just weird. She left after that. A couple more weeks passed - less awkward at work, kind of speaking to her. She then told me she was mad at me... A couple more weeks passed again - she wanted to talk about everything and asked to add her on Skype. So we spent 4hr hours talking about what was up what we are doing. She told me she has feelings for me and she said I understand her and I know what she's thinking when she doesn't even say it but the feelings she had are not as big as they used to be, and she now has feelings for this other guy. She said I should have spoken to her sooner. She said I't sucks we can't be friends and that she does see her self with me but not just yet. Then she went on to tell me that her current boyfriend is pissing her off and she hadn't told him she's a virgin. We came up with only two possible options 1. We go back to not really talking - not being friends, no texted 2. Give us another go I said should we go with option 1. she paused and then nodded. A few days later she texts me - I texted a couple of text back but then I stopped replying as I said to my self "you cannot text her - you are not friends and nothing more then mutual acquaintances" The next day she does the same thing - and so do I. Next time I saw her her at work we spoke said hello did a bit of flirting. End of the day she says bye to guy next to me but then looks at me and walks off lol. Now pretty much present day - saw her at work she came up to me, said hi. I flirted with her through out the day and she came to my office to ask a non relevant question. Anyways - I know GET OVER IT, MOVE ON, NOT WORTH IT. I was an ****, I see that now. I hurt her and I know I shouldn't of done what I did. I'm actually never an ****, honestly I don't why I was to her . Basically what do I do? I have never had such a strong connection for someone and never really cared about my other relationships like this. **More details on me** I get attention from woman quite often, I'm the one to reject people not them. I've been out with a few girls since I stopped seeing her, but I cannot get her off my mind. I have never felt such a strong connection for someone and in such a short time, all I want to do Is make it right. Sorry for the poor writing, I'm extremely tired lol and just wanted to write it all out! Advice please?
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