NathanP Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Anyone have straight answers about this (specifically women)?? 1st- How/why does a girl that said she was in love with you, jump to a new relationship so fast? (1-2 weeks) 2nd- Why after this, if you tray and make contact later (month or so) will they reply sometimes, then not reply, but do thins to get your attention (via fb, instagram etc)? If you dumped the guy, and are happy, why play small games to mess with the dumpee's head? why not just make direct contact?
destroyed4sho Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 (edited) Anyone have straight answers about this (specifically women)?? 1st- How/why does a girl that said she was in love with you, jump to a new relationship so fast? (1-2 weeks) This is not exclusive to women, men do this too. Read some posts on here it is full of people asking this same question - men, women, children, aliens... The say they love you one last time bc: 1. want to let you down easy 2. want to believe it themselves when they say it bc they feel guilty that they do not 3. they love a past memory of you, not who you are now 4. Have no idea what love it or think of it selfishly (like they love you because you keep them company when they are lonely) 2nd- Why after this, if you tray and make contact later (month or so) will they reply sometimes, then not reply, but do thins to get your attention (via fb, instagram etc)? AGAIN, not exclusive to women Reasons: 1. To boost their ego 2. They don't reply bc to them it is OVER. They really do not want to contact you but force themselves to sometimes out of guilt If you dumped the guy, and are happy, why play small games to mess with the dumpee's head? Reasons: 1. For an ego boost why not just make direct contact? They do not WANT to make contact bc it is OVER. They have their closure and do not want you back. Indirectly contacting you strokes their ego and they feel better about themselves. [/i] Edited March 19, 2013 by destroyed4sho 2
Author NathanP Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 Anyone have straight answers about this (specifically women)?? 1st- How/why does a girl that said she was in love with you, jump to a new relationship so fast? (1-2 weeks) This is not exclusive to women, men do this too. Read some posts on here it is full of people asking this same question - men, women, children, aliens... The say they love you one last time bc: 1. want to let you down easy 2. want to believe it themselves when they say it bc they feel guilty that they do not 3. they love a past memory of you, not who you are now 4. Have no idea what love it or think of it selfishly (like they love you because you keep them company when they are lonely) 2nd- Why after this, if you tray and make contact later (month or so) will they reply sometimes, then not reply, but do thins to get your attention (via fb, instagram etc)? AGAIN, not exclusive to women Reasons: 1. To boost their ego 2. They don't reply bc to them it is OVER. They really do not want to contact you but force themselves to sometimes out of guilt If you dumped the guy, and are happy, why play small games to mess with the dumpee's head? Reasons: 1. For an ego boost why not just make direct contact? They do not WANT to make contact bc it is OVER. They have their closure and do not want you back. Indirectly contacting you strokes their ego and they feel better about themselves. [/i] Alright, I can understand this, but not all of it... The girl was crying on a 3hr convo saying I want you, but feel you dont want me. Week later, invites me to come spend the night, not the other way around. After the new rebound, still comments and does things on my friends profiles, not the other way around. As far as directly with the rebound, a few WEEKS later...saying "my love", "best boyfriend ever", etc...where my bro and friends see??
destroyed4sho Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Pls be more specific with order of events. Is she with the rebound now? How long has it been?
Author NathanP Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 Pls be more specific with order of events. Is she with the rebound now? How long has it been? Sure. Been with rebound now for 2.5 mos, and is still with him. Mild details of breakup..till now... 1- Week before break up, 3hr phone convo (she called me) telling me how much shes in love with me and wants to make it work. Mentions she went on a date with a guy she met, but it didn't feel right and she wants me, cause of love. 2- Argument leads to breakup, and I do the normal things (flowers every day, letters, etc),...doesnt work obviously. 3- 2 weeks later, starts relation with guy she went date on. 4- Ignores my occasional texts, but comments on my bro's and friends pics...even one's I'm tagged in. 5- 45 days after breakup, She responds positive to text, and even flirts lightly. 6- Next couple weeks, starts ignoring again, but still comments on pics I'm tagged in. 7- Recently (week ago) randomly texts, saying She hopes I'm doing well. I text a day later, "everythings well, staying busy"...no response. 8- yesterday, email her a funny link that reminded me of her. Doesnt reply, but shares it on the social network.
destroyed4sho Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 (edited) Its Over...FINISHED..Finito..donot have any hope this woman is coming back to you. Go NC. My take on it.... 1- She cheated on you...FELT GUILTY..says she loves you bc she wanted to believe it herself and prob at the same time let you down easy. She started this convo for the sole purpose of letting you know that she is interested in someone else and preparing you for BU. 2-who broke up with who?? If you did, good for you. 3-even if you BU with her it looks like she was goig to leave you anyway for him. 4-she ignores your texts bc she has closure,she is over you, has a new man and diesnt want to be bothered with the past. So what if she comments on ur brothers photos on fb? Does not mean much. She may just want attention. 5-sounds like she was missing you (maybe as a friend)but not to the point that she wants you back. She flirted? Ego boost and to see if she can keep you in her back pocket in case her new relationship doesnt work out. 6-so what if she commenta on ur pics?? She is just seeking attention for her own ego. I dont even think this would be considered a breadcrumb. 7- guilt text..now she can sleep better at night knowing your doing ok, dont hold any bad feelings for her and comfort to know you will always respond. 8-she likes the social network...who cares??!! Mystery solved! Dont give her what she wants!! Go NC. Edited March 20, 2013 by destroyed4sho
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