msalek89 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Hey everyone. Well I was just wondering if anybody here has ever dated a co-worker. Here is scenario: I am 23 years old. I work in an office of 13 employees. I work here part time and I don’t plan to stay working here forever but I am still here since I am working on my masters. So there is this one co-worker who I like. He is 30 years old. To me age is not a big deal and he looks like he is on his mid 20’s since he takes care of himself very well. He is goofy and funny, likes to go out, independent and many more good qualities. I know a lot about him since we talk at work. We have never had the chance to go out of work. We have had opportunities but either he can’t or I can’t. I was not that interested in him until I became single a few months back. Plus my boss was trying to get us together but I didn’t seem interested so that ended. I know he is single and now I am wondering how I can get approach him. I don’t want to do it during work because that would be weird. About a month ago I decided to give it a try on asking him to hang out. On a Saturday night I text him asking him if he knew of anything that was going on to go out and he told me that he didn’t know. So the next day Sunday he text me around 7 asking me if I found something to do to let him know. I told him I didn’t have nothing going on but that I was going to look around. Then I decided to say to that if nothing popped up maybe he wanted to go get some drinks. He told me that it sounded good, that he was going to have dinner and text me back. About an hour later he text me telling me that was had been up since 6am and he had his longest race that day (he runs marathons). I knew he wasn’t lying but I still felt stupid and rejected. I said it was not a problem and next time. At work we don’t flirt and we talk when he get the chance. Sometimes we got thru a day without talking or seeing each other. So do you guys have any ideas of how I can hang out with him outside work? Advice? Anything? I think he sees me as a co-worker and maybe sister, that’s why I want to change that image. My age is not an issue because he has dated girl my age and about looks I don’t think I am not bad looking either, but maybe I would have to change my wardrobe for work.
whirl3daway Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 My ex-fiance works at the same office as me. Still. Yes, it's weird. It's even weirder knowing that everyone in the office knows our business and our status. It's EVEN weirder when my ex gets women wanting to hang out with him from our office. I thought I had no issues with workplace relationships until this one ended. We are still friendly, but it would make my life a lot easier if we didn't work together. There are people here that met here and got married so...it works for some people, I suppose. If you're 23, and he's in his 30's, I would not suggest going for it honestly. He wants different things than you, and you guys are in two different places in your lives. I would not suggest dipping your pen in the company inkwell, but that's just me.
WildWildWest Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Dont do it! In my opinion its a horrible idea.. I learned from experience.. I was seeing a guy I work with on and off for 3.5 years and its finally ended totally and it is soooo awkward since we have to see each other everyday.Things didnt end on the best of terms so we dont even speak or look at each other. not to mention everyone else we work with knows our business since it is VERY hard to keep it a secret, we did good for years but then all it took was one person finding out and everyone knew. I know I will never mess with anybody I work with ever again. . 1
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