Thunderchild Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 (edited) Good Afternoon Everyone, Once again, congratulations on surviving to another day. May you find the strength you need to get through the next minute, hour, day, week etc. Another “tomorrow” has arrived and you are stronger for it. I’m now on Day 31 of full, hardcore, no nonsense No Contact with ex. I can’t believe that I’ve made it thus far. So, I’m shouting out a big “THANK YOU” to you guys (and gals) out there who have listened to my ramblings and kept me on the straight course. So, I got past the milestones of 1 day, 1 week, 2 weeks and now 1 month. I’m now in far better place than I was in Day 1. I suspect it was someone on here who said, “…keep dragging one weary foot in front of the other day after day after day and before too long you’ll look back and find that you’ve climbed a mountain” It’ll be another full month of NC before I start asking for my stuff that I was storing at her house. Normally, I’d just abandon, but this is Royal Doulton figurine, Edinburgh Crystal, Carltonware and a full 12-place Staffordshire Dinner Service (with silver cutlery, tureens and chargers). Some of it I inherited from my late mother. Dang-nab-it, I wish I’d just shoved it into storage, but we were talking about living together at the time, so it seemed sensible to move it to her place. Ah, well, I’ll follow the Tara advice – send a very straight, no-nonsense text and then send a couple of my pals over with a van to collect. She’ll get the message as to just how final this is. Well, I got to day 30 and didn’t really have much to report. Oh, the emotional parasite from the dating site texted again. Her last words to me last week were “….maybe our paths will cross again sometime in the future”. I then deleted her number (and blocked her on-site). Lo, and behold, she was back again in under a week – I didn’t recognise the number – so, I asked if she was someone else who had text me from the site and had disappeared. She gave me her name – still didn’t ring any bells. So, I asked where she was from. She replied – der pfennig ist gefallen! – and, I ignored her from that point onwards. Sorry, I don’t need this kind of emotionally-manipulative BS right now – or ever!. Still, I’m getting on with work – which has been an absolute Godsend now that I can get back into writing-mode. For a long time I couldn’t get beyond the pain and hurt. Now, I can compartmentalise it and move on. Am booked for pub quiz tomorrow night – lovely jubbly! It’ll do me good to get out from behind the screen. And, who knows there might be an attractive young(-ish) lady with a yen for writers there. She might even be my first “groupie”!! You never know your luck!! :-) Live Long & Prosper!! Edited March 19, 2013 by Thunderchild 1
Minneloa Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Thunderchild, your posts are inspirational! I greatly admire your attitude and your strength. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us here. 1
Author Thunderchild Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 Minneloa - many thanks. There are still days when it hurts, but, hopefully, they'll be fewer and further between. My journey is far from over on this site. There are a lot of people out there (including the lurkers) who are in a lot of pain and difficulty, and I hope that I can show them that there is some kind of "redemption" for them as well. I'll keep waffling on until someone tells me to stop or the Grim Reaper comes calling! 1
iouaname Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Congratulations on the milestone! I just passed it as well and I know how good it feels to be able to accomplish it and to know that you're moving forward. I'm on day 34 myself, and while there are still a lot of ups-and-downs, I am generally in a much better place, and I find that I'm able to handle the downs much better than I was before... 1
knicksdan311 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Congrats guys, glad to see your doing better. I'm on day 4 and it's so hard. I'm just generally down, have an occasional up but they are far and few between at this point. It will get better I know it will.
Author Thunderchild Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 (edited) Congrats guys, glad to see your doing better. I'm on day 4 and it's so hard. I'm just generally down, have an occasional up but they are far and few between at this point. It will get better I know it will. What got me over "the hump" was to sit sdown and look at what she had actually done. In my case it was so bad there was very little chance of my actually forgiving her - once my head accepted that it was just a case of waiting for the heart to catch up. Edited March 19, 2013 by Thunderchild
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