The Tallest One Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Hi all, so I'm just a little over a month post bu and still really hurting! My buddy is pressuring me to go on a date with a friend of his! He gave her my number and said I would text her! We I didn't want to be rude so I did text her but to be honest, my heart really isn't into it! She kept texting me last evening and it felt like a chore to reply and I feel terrible about this because its not fair to her! I don't want to waste her time either! I'll probably just tell her I'm not ready to date because I don't want her waiting for replies from me! Am I doing the right thing here or am I missing an opportunity to meet someone who could be a good addition to my life?
Renard99 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Only you can decide when you want to go for it and when you don't. I can understand your hesitation, especially if you get on well with this woman........ However, from what you've said it sounds like you're not ready yet. You need to be at the point where communicating with a potential date is intoxicating, fun and exciting. Ultimately, it needs to feel like it is exactly what you want and it also needs to feel natural. If it feels unnatural and forced or if there are any lingering doubts, even if they're tiny, you need to back down and walk away. You have to remember that, if you were to launch in and aren't ready, it's not just you that this would affect. In this situation it'll be best to come clean to this girl and say that, whilst you're flattered that she's communicating with, you really aren't in a position to date this soon after a break up. You need to have found peace and be happy with your own life before introducing someone else to it
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