Wabisabi Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Yesterday was our one week on NC and today he sent me a text. Said he's going to another place day after tomorrow. When I received that text, my heart was thumping so hard. Because we're on long distance most of the time, our means of communication was mainly through instant messaging and SMS. Just when I start to feel more neutral whenever my phone beeps he sent me a text and it's like all that effort I put in to help myself move on go down the drain. Well, to be fair to myself I have yet to reply and I'm still pretty calm...although my daily rhythm(since NC) is kinda broken. I still have questions in my head like why is he telling me that now? I know it was me who asked him to let me know when he's gonna move but that was before we broke up. What does it matter anymore? I still don't get it how he could say he doesn't love me anymore so suddenly. By texting me today, at least I know he remembered what I asked of him and he didn't totally wipe me off his mind. I guess dumpees like me will always hope for these stuff when the break up is still fresh. I can't remain on NC for long either because we'll be meeting in some months time whether we like it or not. And we share too many important people in our lives. I know clearly our relationship is over but I don't wanna be hostile. I really feel like replying him and wishing him the best but at the same time I'm afraid. Arrgh!!
TaraMaiden Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 I don't understand what your dilemma is. maintain NC as far as you can, for as long as you can, with absolutely no unnecessary break. When you HAVE to see him, courteous but distant, polite but reserved. What's the problem....?
Author Wabisabi Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 I don't understand what your dilemma is. maintain NC as far as you can, for as long as you can, with absolutely no unnecessary break. When you HAVE to see him, courteous but distant, polite but reserved. What's the problem....? Problem is I have the strong urge to say "thx for letting me know. All the best to you" and back to NC. I keep thinking if I should or should not...should or should not...Am I being silly and very stupid?
TaraMaiden Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Stay NC. It doesn't matter what he does. It's what you do that's important. Let it go. Now you know. Big deal, so what? How does that affect you, where you are, geographically, now? If all your contact was mainly through texts or SMS, it wouldn't matter where he was, it would still be a means of contact. So telling you he's moving, is of absolutely no interest, consequence or value to you at all. He's just rib-tickling you. And no, it's not funny. leave it be, stay NC. 1
Author Wabisabi Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 Stay NC. It doesn't matter what he does. It's what you do that's important. Let it go. Now you know. Big deal, so what? How does that affect you, where you are, geographically, now? If all your contact was mainly through texts or SMS, it wouldn't matter where he was, it would still be a means of contact. So telling you he's moving, is of absolutely no interest, consequence or value to you at all. He's just rib-tickling you. And no, it's not funny. leave it be, stay NC. Mmm...yeah. It's tough. But you're right. There's no point in this. I guess I just hope to maintain a friendship but I guess I'm not truly ready. To be a friend I mean.
h3braica Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 stay NC and ignore him. by answering him it's hard to go back to NC again cause you would only wait for his message every second of the day and get depressed if he didn't reply and ignore you. i know you miss him terribly but we need to detached ourselves to them for us to heal. be strong. 1
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